She has finally pissed me off!
My Ex called me tonight and left a message on my phone and told me that I needed to call her ASAP. So I did. No Answer. I called her Cell Phone...No Answer. I called her parents house...They said that she was at her house. Finally she calls me back. She proceeds to tell me that she has cut the lock off of MY SHED because she wanted to see if any of her father's tools were in there (which none were). I told her that she had no business going into my shed because all that is in there is mine and she knew this. Furthermore, she should have talked to me before she damaged my property! Bitch! (I didn't say that to her). Then she told me that she changed to lock on the front door of the house. I have to go through her or her parents to go into my own damn house to get the rest of my stuff. BITCH! This is a pain in the butt and I told her that I would give her my front door key AFTER I had gotten the rest of my stuff out of the house. After that we began to talk about things. I finally vented to her and told her that she was the one who broke her vows and she has really messed up my life. She said that I was okay money wise and I told her that money meant nothing to me. All of my hopes and dreams from the past 7 years are gone. The things that I used to define myself as successful are gone thanks to her. I told her that she was selfish and was a horrible person for breaking her vows. I told her that we went in a church, before God, and made solem vows and I have never broken mine. She then asks me if I was still wearing my wedding ring. I told her no because I didn't feel like I was married anymore. She said "See, you are all talk and no game." I told her "Okay, if you feel that way, I will set up a marriage counseling appointment for tomorrow and we can try to work on things." She said that she didn't want to go through marriage counseling and she didn't love me anymore. She just can't flip a switch to start feeling for me again. I told her that it isn't a switch that you flip on an off, you have to rebuild it over time. She said that she was doing this because we were totally different and I don't get her. She said that she knows that they are a lot of petty issues but she doesn't want to work things out because she no longer wants to be married. Her life has improved since she left me. I told her that she is making a huge mistake and she will regrett this one day. I am a good man and I have always been there for her. She said yeah, and you will say that I wasn't always there for you. I told her that this is the past and you have to move on and rebuild things instead of naming blame. You have to seek common ground instead of finding differences between each other. The whole talk did nothing but make me REALLY MAD. She is so full of Crap that she should get an enima before her bowels Explode!! She tried to act like I had a hand in this and I didn't, I was working on the marriage until the day it fell apart. I know this, God knows this, Her family knows this, and my family knows this. She then said that we should start saving up money in case it costs us to file for divorce.....I told her BULL CRAP!! you are going to pay for it because you wanted it. I want nothing to do with it so you can pay the blood money. I won't pay a dime! I need to get my stuff out of that house A.S.A.P. and get my truck title (which she has been holding hostage), my dog (which she also uses as a playing card), and everything else that I have left there so I can be rid of her for good. I will tell her, once this is done, I am myth, I am legend, an old ghost from your past. You will read about me in the paper (I frequently make headlines with my job) and know that I am alive but you will never see or hear from me again. You will never forget about me because I will always be there in the back of your mind as the person you caused so much emotional anguish. When you look for me to appoligize I will not be there. I am gone from your world, dead to you. Pretty cold statement but that is how I deal with these things. I am so ready to tell her this already but I have to deal with her until it is final. I will be happy when it is because the bitch will be gone. She will haunt me no longer.
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Wow, Heavetoo. I see you finally reached your anger stage. I would advise you to get an attorney to protect your rights during this. Sounds like the battle is beginning. Good luck.
I agree with hurtinandhealin you really should get an attorney. I don\'t know about VA, but I know in Ohio if you move out of your home after a certain period of time it is considered abandonment and she can claim it all. Best to pony up the cash and protect yourself. She made her bed...
Yes, get a lawyer.
And very good for you. It\'s hard, but I bet you feel a lot better having told her how it is. I wish I would have done that with the ex-wife, but she had me by the balls so to speak financially, so I was trying to play nice and get a good deal.
*man hug*
*belch*
It\'s hard, though, dude. We all know that. You sound like you are making good progress, though. You have your head in the game, and you aren\'t distracted by the bullshit. Way to be, dude!
*high five*
Oh, and it\'s bullshit that she was giving you crap about not wearing the wedding ring. I\'ve been there. It\'s way too fucking painful when the other person has already told you it\'s over. She\'s at that stage where she will come up with every reason she can to justify her position. People do that when they know deep down that the foundation of their position is not sound. :)
You are 100% right. Love is not a switch. You have to build love. You have to maintain love. She doesn\'t get that. My ex-wife didn\'t get that either, so I totally hear you.
*man hug*
Hang in there, mang. You are doing great so far! Just take good care of yourself. :)