She called again last night.
Well she called again last night. She was upset because I was giving her the fountain we had bought for our house. Said I wasn't wanting to keep anything that had anything to do with us. She said she wanted me to hurt over all this just as much as her. I told her I am hurting as much as she is. What does she want me to do to prove it? I just don't know where I am going to end up once I sell the house. At least she is in a place where she can use it. I never wanted this, any of it. I have memories floating around my head all the time, I don't need to see constant reminders of what isn't anymore. I hate it when she cries. It tears my heart out every time. I'm just having another one of those days.
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I have those days too. I have started packing up pictures and stuff that reminds me of my ex. Not sure what to do with it but out of sight is better. I know my ex thinks he is the only one hurt as well. I wish for you a better day tomorrow and know that you arent alone.
I\'m sorry for your pain, it really hurts. The best thing you can do, is get rid of the reminders, she has to know these things are hurting you, she probably would have been mad if you got rid of the fountain altogether. ...dammed if you do, dammed if you don\'t kinda thing. What do with the things? I got rid of a lot of the stuff he left, it felt so good to throw things away. I boxed up the pictures and personal items I couldn\'t part with and will deal with those things when I\'m a bit stronger. No need to look at them on a daily basis. For her to wish you hurt is not nice, she should realize that you are both hurting in different ways. I was left with our house too, what a mess and it scares me to death to wonder where I\'ll end up once I decide to sell. I cried a ton with my ex, it didn\'t phase him one bit, it probably made his leaving easier because then he didn\'t have to deal with an emotional woman anymore. You have a tender heart and I am sending you a hug. Just know we all have those days and they do eventually get less and less, its a long road tho.