Sexual intrusive thoughts + unwanted fetish

I was originally gonna post this to a forum but I feel like that’s gonna cause something so if things seem to bit weird, that’s why.

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Warning: Long, brutal honesty, and anger

If you don’t want to get brutal honesty, please click off.

Ok, I’m gonna try this again. The last time I was on here saying I had intrusive thoughts on bdsm and unfortunately those who tried to help me failed badly. (No offense)

Now when helping me with this, this is what you need to know,

DO NOT EMBRACE IT!

DO NOT BE OPEN TO YOUR SEX LIFE!

DO NOT TRY TO NORMALIZE IT FOR ME!

That happened lasted time and I was thinking people would give me coping skills or give me a different perspective. Instead, people were really open, embracing, and it felt like I was in a bdsm forum! Besides, I have unpopular heavy opinions on bdsm and dominance and submission in bed in general that if I were to say it in here, I’d get controversy!

No offense I appreciate the help but it rather felt like I was getting the opposite of help. Like someone purposely trying to make my thoughts worse. I’m sorry for my brutal honesty but I needed to get it off my chest.

Now with that out of the way, my thoughts have became less loud because something else was on my mind but then after I got over the other thing that was on my mind, the bdsm thoughts are really coming back. I especially have intrusive thoughts on male dominance and female submission and it’s a long story why but to make it short, I grew up in a female dominated family, always thought men had to respect women, thought female dominance in porn was normal everyday thing, and was scared when I first saw male dominance. I can’t tell the difference from fanasty to reality for example if someone is submissive in bed, they have to be submissive to their partner. My ex was submissive before and that’s how it turned out for us and what I see with other relationships.

Now unfortunately, I have an unwanted fetish. I feel attracted to submissive men and my being dominant but why? When I was going through puberty and always thinking female dominance is a normal thing in society, it naturally came to me to be the dominant one. However I didn’t fully understand dominance and submission in bed. Then today, I have very aggressive thoughts that they can be very consering. I guess over time my brain got used to it and made it a fetish. I don’t know I could be wrong since I’m no expert on this stuff.

Now if you tried to help me the last time, I’d encourage you to just not get involved, I don’t want it to happen again, thank you.

Now when helping me, give me something like this from one person who told me that helps me, “Not all men are dominant, not all women are submissive.”

Do not give me, “Its just to have a good time or but my wife likes it.” That’s a giant no!

If you want to hear my unpopular heavy opinions, you can dm but they might offend and don’t say I didn’t warn you!