served again on dec 26th
Taking my morning walk, trying to get back into a routeen and getting ready for the new year, I come back to the house to be served. The X is taking me back to court claiming I am hiding money and I should be incarserated until I pay her. I just got the divroce oct 1 and construction took another dive for the hoildays and now back to court.. So I am now stressing on funds for bills, everything that is once a year is now due in Jan and I have to come up with 4,00 by the 12th of jan ontop. That way I get my attorney back.
Later that day, I get a card hand dropped in the mailbox..no addresses or names , just plain Now from the oldest son , and it states that it sucks we could not spend xmas together as a fam, I am going to wish you and my brother merry xmas from mom, because she cant legally do it and when I (me) am ready to see the big picture he s willing to listen.....really?? hes the one that wrote a very nasty letter to the judge , saying I was very upset the wife did not die in her attempt. I SAVED HER LIFE!!!! and ths is the thanks I get ! all this is, is crap... She will not stop!!
Same judge will hear the case and I hope he is just so pissed at her and nails her. I am fed up, between her f ing with the loan co and dealing with the bills that she keeps messing with.. I am tired, just plain tired.
Later that day, I get a card hand dropped in the mailbox..no addresses or names , just plain Now from the oldest son , and it states that it sucks we could not spend xmas together as a fam, I am going to wish you and my brother merry xmas from mom, because she cant legally do it and when I (me) am ready to see the big picture he s willing to listen.....really?? hes the one that wrote a very nasty letter to the judge , saying I was very upset the wife did not die in her attempt. I SAVED HER LIFE!!!! and ths is the thanks I get ! all this is, is crap... She will not stop!!
Same judge will hear the case and I hope he is just so pissed at her and nails her. I am fed up, between her f ing with the loan co and dealing with the bills that she keeps messing with.. I am tired, just plain tired.
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Deep Breath!
That explains why she was messing around with your mortgage papers... she was trying to find proof of more income. If she didn\'t find it, you shouldn\'t have any problems in court.
I know it\'s hard to control, but did you know that your emotions can make you MORE tired? Especially anger. I found that when I was able to release mine during my neighbor situation last summer, I had much more energy to deal with everything....
How to release it is to let it build up, feel like like a big ball of energy building inside you, and then emotionally push it out... releasing it. Picture it like a FIREBALL coming from your inner core... If you can do that, you\'ll find your calmness left, and you\'ll be able to cope everything much more easily with a whole lot less stress. Good luck!
At some point this will all be behind us. I too am still dealing with major divorce fall out financially. After stressing like I\'m sure you have been, a calmness I cannot explain has come over me. Take it one step at a time. There were multiple motions in court by his attorney\'s done to make me look bad. Is sounds like you are going through some of the same. There are many similarities between your story and mine. Some of which I would rather not talk about but I just wanted to reach out and tell you we will make it through this. I just have that hard core inner feeling we will make it through.
I am still dealing with divorce crap and the financial landfill too. You will do fine. I am hoping you filed a cross motion.
I know this is all so infuriating and stressful... the day will come when you are able to feel the crap less. Big hugs
Pray. Love. Peace.