Seriously Sis?
I went home this past weekend to see my family. And my sister was there. I didn't avoid her and even congratulated her on the pregnancy. Then she hit me with a huge bomb.
I have PCOS and I don ovulate often, and when I do, the eggs are not always viable. We are doing Clomid to try and conceive our second baby. It worked for our first, so we were hoping that it would work just as easily this time around.... it hasn't. But we are not giving up hope.
Now to the bomb........ "After this I give birth, I will be a surrogate for you. " While it may seem like a nice selfless gesture, it made me feel so useless. Like I was only half a woman.
I would not let her carry my child. For one, she is 11 weeks pregnant and still smoking. Two, I would miss out on everything with the pregnancy. We live 2 hours away from each other and there is no way work would let me off to attend every doctors appointment since I would have to take all day off to go. Thirdly, there is no guarantee she would give me the baby. She might be my sister, but I don't trust anyone when it comes to my potential child. Too many people have been burnt.
Then there is the problem of I don't have the eggs to begin with, so we would most likely have to use her eggs. Would the child even be mine? Would I resent the fact that the child is my husband and sister's child?
Right now, I just want to breakdown and cry. But I am at work and can't really get away with it. I think I may lose it right now.
AF wont show her face so I can start round 3... I just want to get pregnant on my own so Sis can bite me and shove her "thoughtful" gesture up her a$$!
I have PCOS and I don ovulate often, and when I do, the eggs are not always viable. We are doing Clomid to try and conceive our second baby. It worked for our first, so we were hoping that it would work just as easily this time around.... it hasn't. But we are not giving up hope.
Now to the bomb........ "After this I give birth, I will be a surrogate for you. " While it may seem like a nice selfless gesture, it made me feel so useless. Like I was only half a woman.
I would not let her carry my child. For one, she is 11 weeks pregnant and still smoking. Two, I would miss out on everything with the pregnancy. We live 2 hours away from each other and there is no way work would let me off to attend every doctors appointment since I would have to take all day off to go. Thirdly, there is no guarantee she would give me the baby. She might be my sister, but I don't trust anyone when it comes to my potential child. Too many people have been burnt.
Then there is the problem of I don't have the eggs to begin with, so we would most likely have to use her eggs. Would the child even be mine? Would I resent the fact that the child is my husband and sister's child?
Right now, I just want to breakdown and cry. But I am at work and can't really get away with it. I think I may lose it right now.
AF wont show her face so I can start round 3... I just want to get pregnant on my own so Sis can bite me and shove her "thoughtful" gesture up her a$$!
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What an awful feeling.. :( those that haven\'t dealt with the same difficulties are very naive when it comes to what\'s ok and not ok to say to those that are trying. I\'m sorry you are having trouble again, but don\'t give up hope! It\'s going to happen!! *hugs and baby dust*
I\'m sooo sorry she said that. Why are people so inconsiderate? I can relate on more than one level. The waiting is unbearable. I\'m sending positive thoughts your way. (Hug)