Self-Awareness and Defenselessness - Are You Ready to Have the Ole Boy in Your Life?

1. Recognize your ego’s attack

When you see the ego’s attack form, look for signs that it is not in your best interests to respond. For example, if you find yourself shouting at others, making accusations, or seeking revenge, it’s likely that your ego is in charge. libro de ucdm

If your ego is in charge, you may also have difficulty listening to people and hearing their points of view or feedback. You might be tempted to shut them out entirely. You may also be prone to over-analyzing, which can make you feel like you know everything there is to know about any situation.

A big part of the ego’s purpose in this world is to protect and enhance its self-concept. This is a function that remains even after enlightenment, and is not a healthy one.

The ego’s attack is always based on fear, and the only true way to respond to this kind of thought is from the heart. It’s not easy to recognize your ego’s attack until you are fully awake, but it is possible if you pay attention and learn to recognize the thoughts that lead you there.

To recognize your ego’s attack, take a moment to consider the situation and ask yourself what is most important to you. Are you trying to understand, solve, grow, or win? If so, it is most likely that your ego’s attack is a reflection of your pain.

Once you realize that you are responding from fear, you can let go of your defenses. This is the easiest step in dealing with your ego, and it’s the first step to being a real and loving human being.
2. Observe your defenses

Keeping your eyes open will give you the opportunity to observe your ego for what it is. It will be up to you to decide whether you should a) relegate it to the backseat or b) tame it with a dose of love. The big question is, are you ready to have the ole boy in your life? To answer this question requires more than a little self-awareness and a little courage. To do so, you need to find out what really motivates you, and how you feel about others. You may need a therapist, a shaman or a mentor to help you along the way.
3. Soften your belly

One of the best ways on how to soften your belly is by massaging it with coconut oil. It helps increase the skin’s elasticity by nourishing it, while also improving blood flow to the abdominal area, thereby tightening the muscles and tissues underneath the skin. Using almond oil is another great way to moisturize the belly skin, as it contains vitamin E and antioxidants that can help boost collagen production. You can also massage egg whites on your belly skin, as they are rich in protein and other essential nutrients that can rejuvenate it. You can also use rose water to tighten your skin as it is known for its astringent properties.
4. Let go of your defenses

One of the most challenging things to do as a coach is to get your players to buy into the idea that defense is cool and exciting. It requires a lot of patience and time on your part, but the results will be well worth it. The key to making it work is to get the players to see the big picture, and not just their own individual parts of the puzzle. This is achieved through team oriented drills like the one pictured below.