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Someone in here mentioned these letters:  "Something is Better Than Nothing", and that's kinda where I seem to be at.  My occasional Vietnamese lady-friend keeps calling me (!), so I must be doing something right!  Between my fire and her ice we sorta make lukewarm water, and "something is better than nothing".  She texted me saying she needs a movie and a backrub, so I'm going to oblige...just keep it light, Mike, warm and loving, but LIGHT...and funny...been told recently (by another woman) that I'm TOO deep, and I recognize this...there is a point when being "too deep" kills the love and the FUN...wanting some stability, but lightening it up folks...to understand said Vietnamese lady-friend, she has a certain "circle of intimacy" that she does not want violated (she's very much like my cold, stoic German parents...very work-oriented and never THAT cuddly or touchy-feely...thank God my sisters came along...they...one of them anyway...likes that!), so, to love said Vietnamese lady-friend is to understand her and understand this.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Yes, something is better than nothing but my answer to that is that something should never limit you from finding more! I once dated a guy for 5 years. His best friend described him as having the surface area of the ocean and the depth of a puddle! I needed more. I must be like your sister--the deep cuddly type. I did not marry that guy because I knew it was like pouring the emotion of Niagra Falls into a paper cup. So I married the Grand Canyon. Your Grand Canyon is out there. Something is definitely better than nothing unless it limits your search for the real thing. It took me 5 years with the paper cup to realize that. When I found the Grand Canyon, I knew it was all I needed. Good luck with finding your Grand Canyon!
deleted_user
deleted_user

For a serious relationship I don\'t believe something is better than nothing, that\'s just settling and most likely won\'t work out in the long run but if both of you have no expectations of it being more than what it is now, you get along, have fun together and enjoy each other\'s company, then take it for what it\'s worth, dating, having a good time, a good friendship. As Gemstone49 said, don\'t let \"better than nothing\" limit your search for what you really want in your life.
Aronia
Aronia

sounds like you two have a relationship that is nice and you enjoy your time together for companionship. nothing wrong with that.
koolman
koolman

Thanks.
electric2
electric2

been in cool relationship along time ago. it lasted 8 yrs. the relationship revealed a need for a deep relationship. i did achive this it lasted a short time but ended in death. dont feel sorry for me because most of the time im still filled with his love.