Sadness From The Past.
Today, I got a phone call from my oldest daughter. She was giving me an update on my ex-wife's condition. She was hospitalized 3 days ago for tests. My ex is 62 years old. She had breast cancer about 20 years ago and the lump was removed and she had radiation and every check she has had since then, every 6 months, has shown nothing. About 6 weeks ago. her second husband died suddenly without warning. She was fixing supper and she heard a noise, she went into the living room and he was dead on the couch. He was 73.
I saw my ex about 3 weeks ago and she had lost so much weight, that I didn't recognize her. I asked my daughter what was wrong and she said that stress had caused her to lose the weight the past 6 weeks.
Her feet started to swell and they put her on lacix which done nothing. She started getting short of breath and having no energy so they asked her to come to the hospital for more tests. She took a chest x-ray and an EKG. The doctor said her lungs were full of fluid so they told her they had to drain it off. They drained a liter and a pint of fluid off her lung. The Dr. then ordered a CAT scan and he said he saw something on her lung and liver that he is concerned about. This morning, her lung collapsed and she can hardly breathe and they called in a cancer Dr. as well. They haven't told my daughter anything yet but, she is very concerned and was crying when she was talking to me.
Here I am, a Pastor and a Minister and I am still hated by this woman. She doesn't speak when she passes me in the hall of the nursing home. She said 3 words to me the day of our son's funeral in 2005.
To my knowledge, this woman is not a Christian. She and her husband were party people and drank regularly. I am being haunted by these questions. Do I go see her and try to win her to Christ? Do I wait till she asks for me or will she ever ask for me? Do I ask my daughter to ask her mom is she wants me to come see her? I really don't know what to do in this situation. This lady has mocked me and Christianity and what I have stood for, for over 35 years. I am spending a lot of time in prayer about this and hopefully my daughter can let me know how her mom feels about all of this. I guess a lot depends on the Prognosis from the Drs. too. I'll have to wait and see. Man, this is tough.
I saw my ex about 3 weeks ago and she had lost so much weight, that I didn't recognize her. I asked my daughter what was wrong and she said that stress had caused her to lose the weight the past 6 weeks.
Her feet started to swell and they put her on lacix which done nothing. She started getting short of breath and having no energy so they asked her to come to the hospital for more tests. She took a chest x-ray and an EKG. The doctor said her lungs were full of fluid so they told her they had to drain it off. They drained a liter and a pint of fluid off her lung. The Dr. then ordered a CAT scan and he said he saw something on her lung and liver that he is concerned about. This morning, her lung collapsed and she can hardly breathe and they called in a cancer Dr. as well. They haven't told my daughter anything yet but, she is very concerned and was crying when she was talking to me.
Here I am, a Pastor and a Minister and I am still hated by this woman. She doesn't speak when she passes me in the hall of the nursing home. She said 3 words to me the day of our son's funeral in 2005.
To my knowledge, this woman is not a Christian. She and her husband were party people and drank regularly. I am being haunted by these questions. Do I go see her and try to win her to Christ? Do I wait till she asks for me or will she ever ask for me? Do I ask my daughter to ask her mom is she wants me to come see her? I really don't know what to do in this situation. This lady has mocked me and Christianity and what I have stood for, for over 35 years. I am spending a lot of time in prayer about this and hopefully my daughter can let me know how her mom feels about all of this. I guess a lot depends on the Prognosis from the Drs. too. I'll have to wait and see. Man, this is tough.
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I just got a call from a friend who says that my ex is in surgery now! I tried to call my daughter but, got an answering service. I don\'t understand.
I\'m so sorry.. this must be so hard for you. I do not know what to tell you.. other than to pray for her.. but you probaly are already doing that.
Please keep us posted and remember we are her for you.
My heart goes out to you & your daughter with empathy. Ask your daughter about her mothers openness for you to visit and her openness to hearing about Christ now that she is in crisis. You your daughter & ex wife are in my prayers.
I can only answer that with a Question? I was working in a nursing home and this women asked me about God, I did not know what to do so beng busy I kept going. She died and I regreted it. Do you carry on with that regret?
It is beautiful that you have such compassion for this person who doesn\'t seem to have been able to show you much of the same. I am saying a prayer for her physical health and for a softening of her heart. I agree you should let your daughter talk to her mom to see if she is open to a visit from you, but I would go as a loving friend and not on a mission to bring her to Christ. I know that must be hard, but I think the simple grace of going to see her in a loving way, with no other motive than to support her, will appeal to her more than anything you could say about religion. It might even inspire her to ask you some questions about your understanding of God.
BROTHER, I REALLY FEEL SO SAD FOR YOU TO PUT YOU IN THE SPOT.
WHILE I WAS I READING YOUR JOURNAL THE THOUGHTS CAME TO MINE MIND IS TO WAIT FOR HOLY SPIRIT WILL TELL WHAT TO DO. YOU MIGHT MAYBE DO BY SURPRISE UNEXPECTED THE LAST MINUTE THING WHEN GOD WILL SPEAKS TO YOUR HEART THAT MOMENTS. THAT WHEN GOD STARTS TO SHOW UP.
I WILL PRAY FOR YOU SO GOD WILL GIVE YOU DISCERNMENT AND OR WISDOM YOU WILL KNOW IT.
GOD BLESS YOU.
SISTER IN CHRIST, LUCI
hey Pee Wee........... not gonna write much, since we just talked......... you know how I feel...........
love and hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Me.
Im so sorry to hear about your ex OB.. that is a sad situation.. I would perhaps talk to your daughter.. if she wants to come to God it will be up to her.. bless you and your daughter..xx