Sad, inspiring, happy, whatever journal

I know we all feel the emotions of each other as we relflect on their journals.  When they are sad, we know that feeling and we feel sad for them and for ourselves.  When they have write about something so happy and I put that together with being inspired....we get inspired and happy for them and for us too as it gives us hope, whatever we write, however we write, whatever we feel one thing is sure is everyone here knows exactly what we are going through and we share in that feeling with them and for them and for ourselves.  What a wonderful group we have here on DS.
If someone would have said I could write about being happy, inspired, enjoying life almost six months ago, I would have said "what are they thinking, why are they saying those things to me, don't they know how bad I hurt.  But here I am being able to share whatever one writes in their journal and pretty well can feel what they are feeling at that time.  I know when I first lost Ken, I thought I would never ever quit crying, I thought I could never feel happy, I felt when I smiled I put on a fake face and of course that is how I felt...We have all felt that way and each time I hear of someone's loss, I know that feeling they are going through. or when I hear about a death my thoughts are there is a very sad family.  I want to run to them, hug them, tell them I care, I know, I have been there.  One thing we can all say here is we have walked in those shoes.
We have a park close by called 'Holiday World"  Last year, it built the largest, fastest wooden roller coaster in the US...It is owned by a family and it has a water park, rides, all kinds of nice things, no long line, free drinks all day and even a pet place for you pet for the day very reasonable.  It is clean, it is a family park.  Years ago it used to be called "Santa Clause Place" a very simple place to go...today it draws thousands of people a year.
This week, one of the owner's passed away.  He drowned in his pool at home, possiby due to another illness.  He was in  his 40's.  They continue to advertise the park everyday.  They had his memorial this week and thousands of people attened, people that did not know him but know of the park.  My thoughts went to that family and I knew they are sad, they are wondering why, they are experiencing what we have felt....I want to reach out to them and say..I know what your feeling.
I admire this family, they kept the park open, people come from close by to far away to enjoy this family park.  They took their pain and they opened their hearts and shared it with everyone else.  Such kinds words were expressed at this man's memorial.  Such a loving family who didn't just stop and think of themselves but openingly let our community to be a part of their sadness, and their joy of what he had accomplished.  A family park means the world to this family and who in these days gives anything free, but all day you get all the cola's you want just around any area of the part.
To this family, I say, I am so sorry for your loss, for your pain, for the tears you have shed, but to this family I also say, "I admire you".  You did what you knew he would want...I am not sure I could be as brave as they have and continued on with keeping the park open, I don't feel they did it for the money, they did it for the people....To this family I say....I'm sorry for your loss, your sadness and your strength.  I truely feel this family deserves our prayers....and our thoughts as they continue to bring a nice place we can take our children, our grandchildren and know they are safe.......Thank you "Holiday World" and to the family that keep it going.
Sandi....Ken's mom forever
 

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Very inspiring, and you\'re right. This is a very special group. Thanks for sharing--Hugs, Diane
zzztop
zzztop

MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO THIS MAN AND HIS FAMILY. AND IT IS NICE THEY HAVE KEPT THE PARK OPEN FOR FAMILIES TO COME TO AND ENJOY THEMSELFS STILL, HIS SPIRT IS STILL ALIVE IN THE PARK, AND STILL WATCHING ALL THE PEOPLE HAVE SO MUCH JOY, ESPECIALLY THE CHILDREN.HUGS ZZ
deleted_user
deleted_user

my prayers also go out to the family, and you!!! your friend, Dave
deleted_user
deleted_user

You are so right ,everyone here knows how the other truely feels,and thats pretty awesome when you dont even know how you feel sometimes,one thing is for sure and thats the love we all have for our loved ones,and the compassion we all share,and our desire to comfort others ,and to celebrate the lives of thoes we lost and strive to find way to keep thier spirit alive, What a Great Tribute ! God Bless them, and all of Us. Lisa Tweediesmom
biowoman
biowoman

I am so glad that you have found hope and support here...maybe you should send a note to the mom of this man that passed...she probably needs us. Love and hugs...Karen
deleted_user
deleted_user

Inspiring:) I agree with Karen, if you can, send his mom a note and invite her here. It doesn\'t matter how old our babies are, she needs other mothers right now to share her grief. Love and hugs, Danette
deleted_user
deleted_user

We can be inspired by this family as they have shown us how to grieve but still be able to do for others as we would want it done for us. Truly your friend, BarbaraWawa
KandL
KandL

Thanks for sharing. Maybe a note to the family would be of great comfort. We just lost a client here at work. A 23 year old woman who died of an overdose. Left 2 children. I sent a card to her parents & brothers & my cell # & told them that i too have lost an adult child. Maybe they\'ll call, maybe they wont, but I hope it helps them to know that they are not alone & as hard as it is to believe we can & must survive. The family that honored their loved one is brave & so are you. Love, Linda
KimRW
KimRW

Sandi, how sad for that family. I will include them in my prayers. I\'m glad that you have found comfort and hope here on DS as so many of us have. Hugs, Kim
deleted_user
deleted_user

I just meet a nice woman, who lost her son 11 years ago. But, I could sense, she still needs support. I invited her to join FMO and share how she has coped, for so long and maybe find out somebody still cares, and knows how she feels.Blessings on this family, who have to learn to live, without thier love one...Peace to you and yours, Sandi.
Gay
lynette22
lynette22

Prayers and kudos to the family. Reaching out and giving to others helps with the grieving process, it took me a while to learn that, at first I couldn\'t make sense of anything, couldn\'t fathom I had anything earth shattering to share with anyone, and yet all of the beautiful moms on this site taught me otherwise and encouraged me to reach out. FMO has been my life-line and I\'m very thankful I have all my wonderful sisters here. Love and hugs, Lynette
deleted_user
deleted_user

Sad for this family and the community. We know their pain all too well. God bless them and give them peace.....love, dale.....brandon\'s mom
SusanLarson
SusanLarson

So sad. Thanks to my FMO site. You are all my soul mates, Susan
deleted_user
deleted_user

What a lovely sentiment. Thanks for sharing this with us. Love and hugs, Beth
rcoco
rcoco

The powerful nurturing energy of a mother is the closest thing to God\'s love for His children. We know the miracle of life growning within our being, and when one of our own is wounded and in need of help, we abandon our own sorrow to hold another in our heart. God guides us, as we move toward the light.
love, Rebecca