Sad and trying to move forward
I just feel like writing. I find myself coming to this sight again and again. My husband is a mystery and a mess. I guess what is really pissing me off today is what he's doing to the kids. He has no concideration for them and in my opinion is abandoning them. He lives several states north of here and makes no move to try and be closer to us if only for the kids. My sweet boy needs his dad as a male roll model. My precious girl, almost 13, misses him so much I'm afraid of the attention she may seek from boys. His online fantasy girl is the all important. He is scrapping our family and I just want to strangle him for what he is doing to our kids! He's gonna miss out on the day to day and he knows I will probably divorce him for all of this and doesn't care enough. I didn't give him the physical attention when he wanted it and now this is supposed to be the result. GOD DAMN HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Oh no, don\'t you go there. This is NOT your fault. I don\'t care if you didn\'t give him physical attention for 10 years! He didn\'t have to take the little boy cop out route. He could have divorced you first. He could have done anything except cheat to get your attention, but to go as far as he did? Fuck him.
Your kids will be ok without him. Even though it hurts, believe me, they will be ok. With your morals and teachings, they can turn out just fine.
Take him for every penny that he has (or doesn\'t) have. Do you get child support from him? I\'d make it so tough on him its pathetic.
I have to see a lawyer to get a sense of my options. Until then I\'m taking money from his account every week.
He is really so pathetic and selfish! I have to stay angry and determined.
Thanks for commenting!
OK Cherie, I agree completely with BA. THIS IS NOT YOUR FREAKING FAULT! he is a slut and a foolish one at that.
Someone else used the term \"fucktard\" here. I have never before heard that term before, but it is just so appropriate here for what your husband is
You are a strong, proud and beautiful woman. This maggot of yours is deluding himself with his Russian Tart. He will get his just deserts - be certain of it. Do you really think she is after him because he is a nice bloke and all? bullshit. she is using him for an easy entry into the US. when she gets that and is settled in her new country, she will dump his lying cheating arse the first time a better proposition comes along.
you need to focus on you and your kids right now. Do what you need to do for yours and your kids best interests and kick that prick in the nuts LOL
I WOULD CLEAN HIS ACCOUNT AND LEAVE HIM NOTHING,DON\'T BLAME YOURSELF,YOUR KIDS,NEED A MUM MORE THAN A DAD,BE STRONG AND YOU CAN BE BOTH,JUST GIVE YOUR CHILDREN LOVE ,HONESTY AND TRUTH, ,,,I BURIED MY MOTHER ,SHE DIDN\'T HAVE THE COURAGE TO LIVE MY ADULTEROUS FATHER,UNTIL SHE DIED OF A BROKEN HEART ,WITH HEALTH DETERORIATION,SHE PREFERRED HEAVEN ,,,I WAS LEFT WITH THE BROKEN HEART,AND WHEN I WAS GETTING BETTER AFTER YEARS OF ILLNESS,MY HUSBAND,CONFESSED TO A ONE TIME SEX WITH EX GIRLFRIEND,IF I HAD NOT FOUND \'JESUS CHRIST \'AS MY LORD AND SAVIOR,I WOULD HAVE KILLED HIM WITH MY OWN HANDS,HE NEW HOW MUCH I SUFFERED BECOUSE OF MY FATHER,AND JUST HAPPEND TO DO IT HIMSELF,I TOLD HIM,I CANNOT HATE HIM ,BUT I HATE WHAT HE HAS DONE AND THE FACT THAT LIED TO ME FOR 30 YEARS,I AM AFRAID I DON\'T BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE,TO ME IT HAS BEEN NOTHING BUT A LIE.LOOK AFTER YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN, HAVING A BAD FATHER HAS MESSED UP MY LIFE...HOPE YOU FIND STRENGTH AND COURAGE ,LOVE LUCY.
Thanks for your input Mick and Lucy!!
Love and blessing to you both! You are reaffirming what I know needs to be done.
You guys are the best!