rough experience at the party. this isn't drama or anger, but hurt heart feelings.

Hi angel friend, i'm gonna do some writing about a very uncomfortable experience we had at the birthday party yesterday. i texted Alyssa afterwards, to see what was going on, as it was very uncomfortable, being around Aj's family, and also my dad, Holly, and i not having any seats, and having to sit on the cement steps for nearly 2 hours. very upsetting, and really hurt our hearts, and our feelings. the most important thing to us, was that the triplets enjoyed their birthday, we were there for the kids. i texted Alyssa, to let her know, it was upsetting, Aj and his family's anti-socialness, and that we are upset, and hurt, that we didn't get to sit with everyone, and had to sit on cement steps. my dad and Holly both experience back pain, and was very disheartening, them both having to go through what they did, with uncomfortableness. we're disappointed, and we can't see ourselves going over to their h ome again, unless first, they are more respectful, and also everyone getting a chance to sit together, and at least having seats for us all. it was very upsetting, and words can't describe how uncomfortable we felt, all afternoon. This wasn't about "anger" or "drama", purely about being disrespected, and our hearts being hurt. DS is a support site, i can seek support too, and i'm writing this journal out, to share with everyone, about how poorly my dad,Holly and i were treated yesterday.

Upsetting experience at the party yesterday. Hi angel friends, i need to do some heart writing here. before i begin to write, just wanted to say, we're so happy the triplets enjoyed a nice birthday :) that's what meant most to us yesterday, even though it got very uncomfortable at the party, the most important thing, is that we were there for the kids, to celebrate their birthday, and are happy they enjoyed their birthday. i need to do some writing, about my niece Alyssa, Aj,and his very anti-social family. Aj and his family aren't very socialable with us, they don't talk w ith us much, and already, going into the day,and experience, we really wish that Alyssa and Aj would have planned 2 birthday party's for the kids, one here, and one at Alyssa's house or Aj's parents house. with Covid19 still spreading, we all are supposed to be social distancing. gatherings like this, especially people who aren't living together, is discouraged, as there's a pandemic going on,and you hear stories on the news, about gatherings, and people getting covid19. we were very worried going into the day, and experience.

We arrived at Alyssa's house a bit later, as my sister Jenn and family had stopped by our house to drop off some items which made us a bit late to the party, they didn't go to the party yesterday. they were concerned also, about covid, and we all aren't use too being around Aj's family. his family doesn't talk to us much, and they are quite rude, when it comes to the times we've gone over there, with them there.

When we arrived yesterday, Aj's family was there, my brother Bobby and family arrived before us, and also friends of Alyssa and Aj and family were there. so we were last to arrive. we walk over to the porch area,all of the seats are taken. my brother Bobby actually gave up his seat, so my mom could sit. We're already feeling extra uncomfortable, due to all of this. also Aj's family was staring at us all, even my mom and dad felt uncomfortable, and it takes a lot, for them to feel uncomfortable. like i said, we were there for the kids. with no seats, or any offers of seats.

so we're uncomfortable already, and then, the only area where we could sit, is the cement steps, my dad and Holly,both have bad backs, Holly has sciatia. we got to dish up foods, and were sitting in only area we could, the cement steps. the porch was packed, no seats. there was a garbage bag next to us too, and people throwing stuff away, a foot away from where we were eating. it was disgusting. we wanted to leave. later on,Holly almost fell, when we switched spots on the steps, she was falling into the bush/shrugs area, i even texted my mom, and she said, it feels very uncomfortable here. we continued to trooper through this experience, for the kids. Aj and his family, didn't say anything, to Holly and i, and it felt very uncomfortable. we would have loved to be on the porch, able to socialize, and to sit with everyone, it would have made us feel like we weren't outsiders. my dad left, he had to go to work, but Holly and i stayed.

around 4pm, when we were getting ready to leave, Alyssa then asks Holly if she needed a chair. about 2 hours late. very disrespectful. later on during the evening, i texted Alyssa, i told her what was going on, and how she, and Aj, and his family,made us all feel, very uncomfortable, and unwelcome, and that we had no seats, and just wanted to feel like we were a part of the party, being there, as guests. i shared with friends during the evening, and i got some hugs that made me feel upset and was insensitive toward what i was talking about, and that's not right. to be told, "get the anger out, and get the drama out of my head", it wasn't about anger, or drama, so who said that, please allow your friends here on ds, to fully explain what happened ,before you judge, or get judgemental and push aside their heart feelings. i'm always supportive, i've been here on DS for over 13 years,and i never tell anyone, to get the drama out of their head, my dad, Holly and i handled things respectfully yesterday. i'm supportive, and that's the right way to support your friends, and family of friends when someone like this comes up. i'm hurt, and my dad, Holly,and i don't deserve what happened to us yesterday, and to be treated like we were. it didn't anger us, didn't fill our heads with drama, it filled our hearts with hurt, and disappointment.

Alyssa apologized to us. i hope next time, we're treated better at the gatherings. i told her, we hope to be treated better, and to be able to fit in, and to be able to sit with everyone. it's all we wanted. we were guests there, we actually went. my sisterJenn, brother Charlie, sister Lisa (their grandma), didn't even go,my dad, Holly and i went,and made an appearance, to be there to celebrate the kids birthday's, it was about them. we were just asking,to be treated equally,and fairly. i'm upset too, that i reached out to friends yesterday evening,and being told it's about anger, and drama. no it isn't, it's about heart hurt, and not being treated like a guest. i will always support everyone ,and i will never be harsh to anyone here on DS, or in my life, anyone i encounter, i will always be supportive, and heart hear what the friend has to say, before i judge how to support that friend, the very best i can. i rarely ask for support. i'm more comfortable bing a supporter. i'm ashamed of Alyssa, Aj, and his family, on behalf of my dad, Holly,and i, and also my mom is quite disppointed too. i've helped Alyssa so much with $, over the past 5 or 6 years, to help pay for the triplets birthday's, and didn't expect anything, but i also didn't expect, my dad, Holly and i have to sit nearly 2 hours on cement steps, at the gathering, where everyone else, sat on the comfortable seats on the porch. Holly's back is hurting,and i'm very upset about this. i will write later, ijust want everyone to know, here on DS, if you have any issue come up, like this, and need support, you'll recieve my full support, and no judgementalness. i will forever support everyone fully :) thank you angel friends. :)

-never lose hope :)