Rolling w/ the punches

Mechanic said my car is too old and expensive to maintain that it's not worth it in his professional opinion.  I'm used to having not perfectly maintained cars but I agree with him.  I bought it from Dad but it's still in his name maybe I'll let him sell it and be carless?  I don't know!  I'll turn it over to God. Last night I was tired of rain and walking to the bus and getting up early.  I went to dinner with parents and it was near my gym.  Dad's been considering checking it out so I asked them if they wanted a tour, there is a special to sign them on on my account for a discount, and they both signed up.  Dad is a real relentless bargainer it's like so frustrating, he's trying to get them to give him a discount, asking the girl repeatedly and to speak to her boss.  I was saying I want the monthly withdrawal moved out of my account and I said it a few times because he is very irresponsible, and he snapped at me and said I was being rediculous and how often does he ask me to pay or do I pay for him? I said not enough.  I cried later. I almost walked out.  His abusiveness came out.  Mom was compassionate she knows he can be an a#@.  This morning he kissed my cheek and said not to worry about anything. I calmed down and thought, will I just pay his monthly fee if he doesn't switch it to his credit card?  I had to pay in order to put them on the plan.  Anyway he's real sneaky.  I can cancel him or pay or whatever.  I just do not like dealing with him with money, it was traumatic.  Mom said to not let it bother me that he sucks the joy out of stuff.  She told the gym lady at least she wouldn't have to go home with him, and the lady laughed.  He's real hard to be around when it comes to his money sometimes.  Anyway live and let live and live and learn.  I thought about calling my sponsor to get her take of "my part" in the matter, often she will say I did nothing wrong. I said I was sorry to him, that I was trying to be responsible and not take on an expense I can't afford.

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Loved1
Loved1

Sponsor\'s suggestion was to calm down and wait to see if Dad uses the gym, and asked about how much rent I pay - not much, which she reminded me, so I may consider paying his bill - I give rent $ to Mom and Dad gives her some but he shorts her, but I suppose I am shorting her, too.

It\'s about looking at my part and I guess not taking responsibility for others BS but to see how I deal with it and make sure my part is good or amend it. I guess it\'s time I up my rent $ that will help.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I can imagine that situation must have been difficult for you..but I am so proud of you for reaching out for help..
BubblesDavey
BubblesDavey

Life Challenges will always be with us and as we grow we learn how to deal effectively with them One Day at a Time. Blessings for a great day.