Returning back to work (ttc feel free to skip)
so far no luck on a work from home job.. I am so worried about going back to work and missing out on Angelica.. I am worried that she will forget who I am.. Soon to be ex will be watching her till Sept and I am worried with him now bottle feeding her while Im at work and me being away that she might forget who I am or not have as much of a bond as we have now.. Advice or words of encouragement please...
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babies do not forget their mama. your ex can try all he wants, but he will never be able to replace you. Yes, going back to work SUCKS. i\'ll have to do it,too. but there are tons and tons and TONS of working moms all over the world and they manage to be amazing mothers, and you will be too.
First, I think its great that the jerk will be watching her during the day while you are working. That helps with the day care costs you were worried about! Its just too bad he is a jerk, but I know even though he has not been good to you, he will be to her. So do not worry about him feeding her etc.
And second, there is NO WAY she will ever forget you or have less of a bond with you! You are her mother! If anything your bond will get better and she will be so excited when you come home! If you are nervous about it, maybe for the first week or two he could stop by with her so you can see her during the day. Or maybe you run home on your lunch break?
Good luck going back to work. And remember, this will be much much harder on you than it is on her!
My husband watches our daughter twice a week by himself while I work abd it\'s been great! It has seriously made them so much more bonded, but it hadn\'t taken away from our bond at all.it can be harder for men to bind with babies when the moon is around all the time bcc they just look to her to take care of everything.it will be good for angelica to have this time with him since she may not see him as much in the future, and it will be good for him to have this time with her to bind and really deepen his love and understanding of her.I think it will also be good for you bc he will quickly learn how hard it is to be with a baby all day and her much work it takes. Whether he ever admits it or not, his respect for you and all you have been doing for her and all you will do for her in the future will increase. Please stop right now worryibg that she will forget you, there is no way that will happen. You could levee her a shirt with your scent of that would make you feel any better. Are you going to be able to pump at work?
Thanks so much ladies... I def plan to pump while at work I even bought an adaptor for my pump in the car
Aww hunny- I am so sorry. Returning to work was harder on me then it was for my daughter. I had the same fears you do- I didn\'t want her to forget me. Believe me when I say, she won\'t! My daughter had no trouble going from bottle to breast and vice versa- we started 1 bottle/day around 6 weeks and she\'s been fine since. She prefers the boob. I\'m still the one she looks for when she needs comforting and her smile is so big when I walk through the door.
She won\'t forget you! My twins are at day care for 9+ hours a day and they get so excited when they hear my voice. Madelyn will just laugh and laugh. It\'s like I have made their day by coming to pick them up!
Ty both so much I really needed to that.. I was worried about doing both bottle and breast...and I sure hope I get that amazing smile cuz ex likes to let her cry it out and sit there playing video games while she screams in the bouncer I told him she\'s to young to cry it out and she comes first