Restraining Order Time??????
Funny how someone can say one thing but do the EXACT OPPOSITE??? THIS I TRULY DON'T UNDERSTAND. He says he doesn't care about anything going on in my life, that I should just BE POSITIVE and MOVE FORWARD. The Judge gave him specific instructions he is to pick Austin up at " CURBSIDE " Well knock on the door last night Austin opened he walked right in went to use the bathroom then sat down at my dining table. I said nicely " What are you doing " I thought we could talk " I then said " OUTSIDE NOW " Look I said i'm doing this in front of Austin but you are NOT ALLOWED IN MY HOUSE GOT IT. Calm down Theresa he said I want to talk to you. YOU JUST DON'T GET IT DO YOU I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU ANYMORE!!!!! GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD I DON'T WANT TO HEAR ANYTHING YOU HAVE TO SAY SO STEP OFF BEFORE I HAVE THE POICE DO IT FOR YOU!!! See this is why you will never be anything or go anywhere because your negitive your not a POSITIVE PERSON. You have no ambition or goals other than to try to find some other sucker to take care of you so you can sit on your ass and do nothing. I work 2 jobs plus do haircuts and babysit on the weekends for extra money. I worked for everything we had I NEVER stayed home with my kids even when they were babies.
He went on to tell me how I will never get out of this apt but he was going places and when his business takes off and he starts making ' REAL MONEY " I better not try to take him back to court and get more out of him. He called me lazy and said that I should switch Therapist because the one I have wasn't working. That I was stuck in anger and I was not taking any of the blame that I was still blamming him for everything. Did I miss something I wasn't the one who packed up all my stuff and drove away. How is this NOT ALL HIS FAULT????? He says i'm not the one letting go and moving on yet he is the one texting and calling me with such lame ass shit like " are you drinking enough water in all this heat " and " how's the car battery holding up " oh and my favorite " just calling to see if you took mr kitty for his shots" Boy for some one who doesn't care about anything going on in my life he sure does have alot of questions.
I don't know where the attack on my character came from I haven't spoken to him in a while the NO CONTACT RULE. I have not bothered with him at all i'm just trying to live my life in peace and quite. True to form I turned my phone off last night because I knew what was coming next it's his pattern always. I'M SORRY HONEY I DIDNT MEAN IT. When I woke up this morning there were tons of text messages and missed calls all through the night. One of them said so sorry about last night I hope our future discussions go better. I text back this 1st your not sorry because for you to really be sorry you have to admit that you did anything wrong. And 2nd there will be no more future discussions between us. 3rd i'm going to change my cell number you may call austin on the home phone.And lastly if you come over here again and get in my face I will slap a restraining order on you and have your visitations revoked until such time when you can prove you are acting in Austin's best interest. Then he tried to call over and over and over again. Sending me text that say please pick up the phone, pick up the phone honey, pick up pick up pick up....... I never did and left the house for most of the day. What the HELL is wrong with him??????????????????
He went on to tell me how I will never get out of this apt but he was going places and when his business takes off and he starts making ' REAL MONEY " I better not try to take him back to court and get more out of him. He called me lazy and said that I should switch Therapist because the one I have wasn't working. That I was stuck in anger and I was not taking any of the blame that I was still blamming him for everything. Did I miss something I wasn't the one who packed up all my stuff and drove away. How is this NOT ALL HIS FAULT????? He says i'm not the one letting go and moving on yet he is the one texting and calling me with such lame ass shit like " are you drinking enough water in all this heat " and " how's the car battery holding up " oh and my favorite " just calling to see if you took mr kitty for his shots" Boy for some one who doesn't care about anything going on in my life he sure does have alot of questions.
I don't know where the attack on my character came from I haven't spoken to him in a while the NO CONTACT RULE. I have not bothered with him at all i'm just trying to live my life in peace and quite. True to form I turned my phone off last night because I knew what was coming next it's his pattern always. I'M SORRY HONEY I DIDNT MEAN IT. When I woke up this morning there were tons of text messages and missed calls all through the night. One of them said so sorry about last night I hope our future discussions go better. I text back this 1st your not sorry because for you to really be sorry you have to admit that you did anything wrong. And 2nd there will be no more future discussions between us. 3rd i'm going to change my cell number you may call austin on the home phone.And lastly if you come over here again and get in my face I will slap a restraining order on you and have your visitations revoked until such time when you can prove you are acting in Austin's best interest. Then he tried to call over and over and over again. Sending me text that say please pick up the phone, pick up the phone honey, pick up pick up pick up....... I never did and left the house for most of the day. What the HELL is wrong with him??????????????????
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Ughhh... I\'m sorry. Your doing good. Keep journaling your frustration... no contact... Admit it, you feel much better when you don\'t have any don\'t you? (Hugs)
Take the text and phone record and see if you can get that restraining order. He obviously doesn\'t think rules are for him. You are going to have to make a believer out of him if you want peace and quiet. Go back to no contact.
Stick with the no contact and do as trisha says keep all records of phone and texts and go get a restraining order,also call the lawyer and tell him/her what happened,as well as telling the therapist,i think you will feel much better once u change the cell #....try to have a good sunday(((HUGS))).
T, once again you MUST STOP RESPONDING TO HIS \"VOLLEYS\" either in person or via text message. He is projecting all his dysfunction onto you and by dignifying those things with a response, you are just feeding this monster!
Further, UNLESS YOU CAN GET IT THROUGH AUSTIN\'S HEAD that he is NOT TO ANSWER THE DOOR (regardless of who is on the other side) you will have a hard time keeping the stbx outside your home.
CALL ME WHEN YOU GET HOME TODAY!!!
The no contact is getting to him... and I heard you better get a new therapist also ( he always like him when we saw him) and the translation is, you are getting stronger and are not dong what you what he wants any longer, and he DOESNT like that. This is all about him trying to control, and he is going to show you, he is not worth leaving. That is all the when I am rich with my own business talk it about. Funny way of showing it. AND then the texts after, because after he leave he figures out that acting like he did, is not the way into your heart. Getting a restraining order is not as easy as you think if he has vistation, and the best plan is to have your son ready, waiting and you watch when he pulls up. Be way early, even if the stbx is not on time or early. Your door should be locked, but do not get on Austin\'s case if he opens the door to his dad, it is not his fault, and you do not want him to be in the middle. Stick a simple rubber wedge, like you use to hold a door open under the threshhold from the inside if he trys again to come in. You said apartment, and this will work, as you probably can\'t add anything as you rent. Austin could get it out in case of fire.. but no one can get in. Go over keeping the door locked with your son for general overall safety... A BIG HUG TO YOU!