Resigned and Resolved
So I am over my tantrum from a few days ago and am accepting that I now am truly living the 'ride' with a close family member with addiction. It is what I expected; it is what I knew would happen. I don't like it, but, that is the way it is. I remind myself that it is HIS journey more than mine, his choices, his outcome. I hope for the best pushing away my desire (or need) to believe in the best. What a tricky thing to do.
Focusing on other people and other things in my life is really helpful. While what is going on with him is big, it cannot be the biggest thing in my life. I told this to a close friend last night who respectfully said, "yes, but a son and what happens to him (stepson or not) is a big thing." True. But it can't be overwhelming.
Fortunately I have other children and loved ones who give me reason to laugh, smile and hope. They are JUST as important and a BIG part of my life.
Focusing on other people and other things in my life is really helpful. While what is going on with him is big, it cannot be the biggest thing in my life. I told this to a close friend last night who respectfully said, "yes, but a son and what happens to him (stepson or not) is a big thing." True. But it can't be overwhelming.
Fortunately I have other children and loved ones who give me reason to laugh, smile and hope. They are JUST as important and a BIG part of my life.
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I was reminded yesterday of the importance of integrating yoga and breathing exercises into my routine of good health. I haven\'t practiced yoga for a while because I got out of the habit due to an injured knee and subsequent surgery. While I still meditate, I find meditation difficult to settle into during periods of higher anxiety. Yesterday I learned some new breathing exercises that are being taught to clinicians specifically to deal with anxiety and they are based on the principles of yoga breathing. Some are calming, deep breath and others are shorter and faster with hand and arm movements. They really are helpful, particularly for people like me whose stress contributes to asthma. I am going to try to practice a few of them every day until they become second nature.
I too practice Yoga breathing. I\'ve been doing Chair Yoga twice a week and am getting so many benefits from the breathing techniques also.