Relationship Repair
Today He went to Counseling...a start.....
Today He put the house in my name only...(which is probably a good ideal anyway as his adult children when he is not around tell me what they will do if their dad dies before me..) so this will help no matter...
I don't like to do it because I am the type that feels marriage means sharing ..same accounts...etc...so doing this was a very big step for me.
I know every since this situation has started about 3 1/2 weeks ago...I Have
Lost 30 pounds...that's good..
Stuck to and maintained my decision...I am too easy to forgive..and let it go..
Not getting much sleep about 3 hours a night....and feel totally exhausted....
I do not know if the marriage will work....I know that it has to be a totally commitment on his part...I have for 15 years..time for him to step up to the plate...hit the ball...make a home run...or go sit on the bench without me in the picture....
I am very proud of myself that I have taken this stand...I do not want a divorce..but I don't want this to continue and think it is fixed then well there it goes again...
I know that if I had done these things to him, we would have been divorced years ago....
So goes the Relationship Repair in my home.....
Thanks to each of you for your responses....Funny I am not angry about it..Maybe just since Ken died...I have come to conclusion that there is just not enough time, energy to keep on giving...hearing promises...that can't be upheld....
The one thing I did not know that it did...I didn't think it affected me...other than I was just disgusted with it all again...then I went to the doctor, when I called home he told me he was sitting in the Garage..It's over 100 degrees here...My first reaction in my gut was the pain of ..Oh he is with the girl across the street.....
I have no problem with our neighbor...she is very sweet...it's just other women and addition problems to porn and getting involved with other women on the net..then when it happens to come up black and white on paper...he will lie make up a lie another lie....to cover all the lies...I could write a book on his cover-up lies...
But I am now doing what I think is best...If we are together 6 months a year or a lifetime....or if we end in divorce...I think the decisions I have made is right for me...
Love you mom's on here...
I knew then no matter what I have to stick to what must be done....
Today He put the house in my name only...(which is probably a good ideal anyway as his adult children when he is not around tell me what they will do if their dad dies before me..) so this will help no matter...
I don't like to do it because I am the type that feels marriage means sharing ..same accounts...etc...so doing this was a very big step for me.
I know every since this situation has started about 3 1/2 weeks ago...I Have
Lost 30 pounds...that's good..
Stuck to and maintained my decision...I am too easy to forgive..and let it go..
Not getting much sleep about 3 hours a night....and feel totally exhausted....
I do not know if the marriage will work....I know that it has to be a totally commitment on his part...I have for 15 years..time for him to step up to the plate...hit the ball...make a home run...or go sit on the bench without me in the picture....
I am very proud of myself that I have taken this stand...I do not want a divorce..but I don't want this to continue and think it is fixed then well there it goes again...
I know that if I had done these things to him, we would have been divorced years ago....
So goes the Relationship Repair in my home.....
Thanks to each of you for your responses....Funny I am not angry about it..Maybe just since Ken died...I have come to conclusion that there is just not enough time, energy to keep on giving...hearing promises...that can't be upheld....
The one thing I did not know that it did...I didn't think it affected me...other than I was just disgusted with it all again...then I went to the doctor, when I called home he told me he was sitting in the Garage..It's over 100 degrees here...My first reaction in my gut was the pain of ..Oh he is with the girl across the street.....
I have no problem with our neighbor...she is very sweet...it's just other women and addition problems to porn and getting involved with other women on the net..then when it happens to come up black and white on paper...he will lie make up a lie another lie....to cover all the lies...I could write a book on his cover-up lies...
But I am now doing what I think is best...If we are together 6 months a year or a lifetime....or if we end in divorce...I think the decisions I have made is right for me...
Love you mom's on here...
I knew then no matter what I have to stick to what must be done....
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i am very proud of you. i wish i had the strength and courage to take that step. chris and i have been togeather 12 years and even though i am just so tired mentally and physicaly i just haven\'t been able to do it yet. he won\'t work and i have the only income. i raise his 2 kids and it makes losing ethan that much harder. my prayers are with you and i know it will all work out the way it should. hug teresa.
You go girl!! I think women are conditioned to put up with a lot of garbage. I remember my mom saying that she was always told \"You made your bed now lie in it\". In other words, don\'t make waves. She encouraged me to be independent and for the most part I am. I am very lucky to have Joe, even though I do complain about him.
I am so glad the house is in your name only. I understand the concept of sharing but when there are step children involved, it is better to have things separate. It is too bad but it is wise.
Hang in!
Hugs, Marlene