Reflections of Hope

When Max died, a friend gave me a book called "Healing After Loss" by Martha Hickman.  It is made up of daily meditations for working through grief.  I didn't pick it up for a full year but when I finally did, I felt I was reading the words of people who knew esxactaly what I was going through.  It amazes me how often I read a daily meditation and it perfectly matches my feelings on that day. 
Here is what I read on January 13 -
"I think these difficult times have helped me to understand better than before how ifinitely rich and beautful life is in every way and that so many things that one goes around worrying about are of no importance at all."  - Isak Dinesen
It is a costly wisdom, and God knows we would not have asked for it.  But it is also true that coming through a great sorrow can make us stronger, teach us what is really important.  But to survive the death of a loved one is no guarantee of greater wisdom.  We can also become embittered, reclusive, grasping.  That's when we need friends, communities of faith, even professional help.  But if we can weather the storm, we will have a better sense of who we are and what we want most in life.  And we will learn to savor and cherish cool water, sunshine and wind, the smell of roses -- and the love and friendship we have now. 
I will take time to notice the gifts life gives me and be thankful.
 
 

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rcoco
rcoco

Thank you for sharing such comforting wisdom. The new reality we all endure is unique to each person, but there is hope of better days. I think that after profound loss, who we were before that day is broken, but how we repair our very soul reflects on our core beliefs about life and after life. I have always laughed with abandon and cherished Gods creation with gratitude...those things about me have not changed, but for a time they were rearranged. For when the veil of darkness slowly falls away, the light is that much brighter.
But oh, how we miss our precious children.
Love and light, Rebecca
Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

I was given this book as well and will pick it up again to begin reading. Each time the pages speak in a new way because we are evolving. Your entry is filled with hope, gratitude and seeing with fresh eyes all that we do have rather than what we don\'t. Thank you for that needed reminder as I can become so \"forgetful\" along the way. Peace and comfort to you and of course the book was written by a woman who had lost her daughter. One who knows this heartache and path. Much love, Joanie
deleted_user
deleted_user

That sounds like a must-read. Thanks for recommending it-a day never goes by that I don\'t think of Tim and the meditations would be a good way to help focus those thoughts and memories. Another good book that I\'m reading right now is When the Bough Breaks, by Judith R Bernstein. It is comprised of interviews with over 50 parents who loss occurred a minimum of 5 years before the interview. It has been so helpful to read how these parents have \"navigated this rutted road\" and have found meaning in their lives again. Hugs to you, Diane
NoraMc
NoraMc

I still canot pick up a dailey devotions book I was given, it\'s just too hard yet..I hope in time I can read mine and get comfort like you are from your book. Nora
deleted_user
deleted_user

These are wise words to be applied to life, indeed. I read from the very beginning....looking for comfort in the words that people around me could not provide. It is without doubt that God was with me and is with me through this storm...leading to all the right places, people and words! I cannot explain the peace that passes all understanding...except to say it is Divine comfort....agape love sent from the Father. I realize everyone has to go through this terrible time, each reaping from it what one will. I choose to cling closer to my faith and come to a greater understanding of the Creator. I thank you for sharing this timely devotion....whether one reads it at the first of this journey or somewhere in the middle.....it strikes the heart and soul with a precious truth that we can hold onto. hugs...dale, brandon\'s mom
mybeachlover
mybeachlover

Gari, Thank you for sharing. My son passed in 2008 also from a motor cycle accident and I can relate to where you are at. Life and how we look at it is forever changed for the more positive in my case. I still ask why.I am choosing to be a survivor and be a better person, and more spontaneous like my son was.I wish you peace and comfort and much joy in this new year. May life be kind to you. Hugs Lynette Bills Mom
biowoman
biowoman

I am so glad that thisdevotion brings you comfort...I have never read these...I think that I will look for it...thank you...love and hugs...Karen
MartinsMom
MartinsMom

This is all so true. I spend everyday of my life taking in all that I can . I want to love and help all that cross my path. It is the wisdom of others that give us strength
deleted_user
deleted_user

Ahhhh......it makes me feel peaceful. So true....especially the 2nd to last sentence. I savor everything now, I\'m grateful for the little things, and the big things. That doesn\'t mean I don\'t slide back and have a pity party once in a while, but I do feel I\'ve grown stronger and more thankful. Thanks for sharing. Love, Julia
KimRW
KimRW

I have this book of daily meditations, and after reading this journal you wrote....I pulled it out again. I think now I will read it again......means more now that when I first started it. Thanks for sharing. Love, Kim
ForMomsOnly
ForMomsOnly

I have this same book and read it frequently...great quotes and thought provoking.
Take care of you,
AnnM
CorriesMom
CorriesMom

That book sounds like exactly what I need right now ~ thank you for sharing!

Love and great big hugs of hope ~ Debbie