Red Flag/Yellow Light?

Before I forget about them, 2 illogical thoughts/comments from H this weekend:


1 - Background: my good friend (the one who I've been spilling my guts to) has a consulting business that she just started this year. Among other methods, she's been using Facebook to promote her business, posting quotes, blog posts & articles. Both me & my H are her personal and FB friends. Story: my H was looking at FB & he says to me, "Ever read these articles that Friend posts?" Me: "Yeah, it's part of her promoting her new business." Him: "Stupid...!" (or scoffing along those lines)
2 - At dinner last night, my son, H & I were discussing my son's civics project, which is a paper on a constitutional amendment of his choosing (he chose the most recent one). I said I'd chose the 19th, the 1 about Prohibition & my son corrected me, saying Prohibition is the 18th. I said, "That's right, the 19th is women's right to vote." To which my H replies, "We never should have given women the right to vote!" My son asks why. "Because then they can run for office" and he points out female politicians that he doesn't like (Pelosi, Palin, Bachman). I don't argue with him, mainly because I'm not familiar with all the female politicians, especially those that are probably doing a fine job, and secondly I know it's not going to change his mind anyway. I'm just glad that my daughter had already left the table at that point. (I may talk to my son later, though, but he pretty much has a good mind of his own.)

I mean, these opinions are obviously prejudiced & illogical. But based on these statements & some from my 10/17 journal entry (i.e. "no women inventors"), I have a blinking yellow light in my mind's eye (or red flag, if you will). Is this becoming a trend? What's going on in his head & should I be concerned about it? I know I'm not responsible for his thoughts, just my reactions to them; however, are these thoughts an indicator of something bigger down the road? If so, what? Or am I just borrowing trouble?

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In son news, as huggy as he was on Thursday, he was kind of a pain in the pa-toot Saturday. So very fresh! I think the only thing that got through to him was when I physically turned away & stopped talking to him (had to make my non-verbals REALLY LOUD!). Once he took his shower Saturday night, he turned back into a sweetie. Not a snuggly sweetie, but definitely sweeter! Teenagers!!!


I'll probably be starting Chapter 10-Entering God's Rest tomorrow. Based on my other "Karla" readings, much of it will probably be along the lines of "What is God's responsibility in your relationship?" So far, it's been: take responsibility for your part, let your husband be responsible for his part. So this would follow. Should be interesting & I hope I learn something new, because all the "old" stuff is very, very stale for me. My faith has kind of been hanging by a thread these past 2 years, albeit a pretty strong thread I'm finding. I find that I need something new; a new perspective, a new approach?

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JOYHOLY
JOYHOLY

HELLO ,I ,WELL YOUR HUSBAND IS SHOWING THAT MAN ARE SUPERIOR BEING ,WELL MAN FELL IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN AND HAS BEEN TRYING TO GET UP EVER SINCE, THERE ARE GOOD PEOPLE AND BAD NO MATTER THE SEX..I DON\'T KNOW WHICH BOOK YOU ARE READING, HOPE IT HELPS YOU..LOVE LUCY.
CintheHood
CintheHood

The book is \"10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages\" by Karla Downing. I got it through Amazon. It is helping me find my way back to myself & toward a healthier way of living & relating!