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This month has flown by and I can say that I have gotten to a point where I am not angry with my ex-husband and how he has treated us. I have had quite a few good thoughts of him lately. This is his birthday month and I remember last year I surprised him with a cruise to the Bahamas to commemorate the occasion. We had a really good time and I actually smile when I think about it. It feels funny though that I don't have that pitted feeling in my stomach when I think about it though. I see that as progress.
My ex-husband's family contacted me during the weekend to make sure I was still coming to Thanksgiving dinner. I told them yes, we would be there. While I am not going to stress over it, it will be strange being there. I wonder how long will he be there, will he bring his girlfriend and her kids or if he will just skip it all together since he has not spoken to any of his family since he left us. Like I said, I am not going to stress over it. I am just ready to eat, drink and have a good time.
A close friend contacted me a couple of weeks and ago and said that my ex-husband has been telling people that "he misses his wife". Him and his girlfriend are constantly fighting because he is always comparing her to me and some are even worried about my safety because she evidently hates me. What? Why is he drawing me into his drama? The boys and I are doing great and I want him to keep his dysfunction as far away as possible from us.
On another note, one of his former friends asked me out to lunch. I made it clear that we are going as friends and he completely understands. Besides, I am a little tired of drinking and dining alone. It seems the waiter/waitress feel sorry for me and always give me a free dessert or a drink. Lol. Also, it's a change of pace. I am embracing being alone, but getting out every now and then and socializing is good for me. I am gaining more confidence and it just feels great to see how far I have come.
Overall, I can say that I am doing good. If you remove the occasional nostalgic moment, I would say that I have progressed further than I would have ever expected. I am not hung up on what my ex is doing and with who and I am definitely not mourning him being gone. I am coming into my own.
My ex-husband's family contacted me during the weekend to make sure I was still coming to Thanksgiving dinner. I told them yes, we would be there. While I am not going to stress over it, it will be strange being there. I wonder how long will he be there, will he bring his girlfriend and her kids or if he will just skip it all together since he has not spoken to any of his family since he left us. Like I said, I am not going to stress over it. I am just ready to eat, drink and have a good time.
A close friend contacted me a couple of weeks and ago and said that my ex-husband has been telling people that "he misses his wife". Him and his girlfriend are constantly fighting because he is always comparing her to me and some are even worried about my safety because she evidently hates me. What? Why is he drawing me into his drama? The boys and I are doing great and I want him to keep his dysfunction as far away as possible from us.
On another note, one of his former friends asked me out to lunch. I made it clear that we are going as friends and he completely understands. Besides, I am a little tired of drinking and dining alone. It seems the waiter/waitress feel sorry for me and always give me a free dessert or a drink. Lol. Also, it's a change of pace. I am embracing being alone, but getting out every now and then and socializing is good for me. I am gaining more confidence and it just feels great to see how far I have come.
Overall, I can say that I am doing good. If you remove the occasional nostalgic moment, I would say that I have progressed further than I would have ever expected. I am not hung up on what my ex is doing and with who and I am definitely not mourning him being gone. I am coming into my own.
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Wow you\'ve come a long way! Loved reading this :)
Congrats and have a great holiday season ..!
Wow..what a great entry! I\'m so happy you are doing better. Hahaha..I love how now your ex is seeing what a wonderful woman he didn\'t treasure and now will regret not treating right. A former friend of his asked you to lunch?? Are they not talking at all anymore? That should be interesting. lol. Go and enjoy the company..why not?
Big hugs!
You have a great holiday, too Coop. Panther, my ex lost a lot of friends when they found out about his double life and how he has treated his children. The ones who have remained encouraged his behavior and they are just as worse off as he is. I think lunch will be interesting. It\'s not a date, but It will be nice to talk to another adult, casually. Thanks for the encouragement.