Putting up the force fields

today has been a relatively quiet day, after trying to control his surgical recuperation and encourage him to comply with appropriate activity levels after back surgery i gave up and left him to his own devises. so he popped open that suture line, started to bleed and now feels like crap and has to start from the beginning again......oh well.....
also since i flushed all hidden stashed medications and am kicking him out(bleeding suture line and all) if he misuses the Norco, he is getting real bitchy. probably some withdrawal  and he is supremely pissed that his drug use and mental status are being monitored by both his sons and by me....
i think he is also a little confused because no one is caring about him being angry. no one is rising to the bait....he had to have this surgery because he was non-compliant with the last one and it failed AND here is a thought:   who really believes him any more about how much pain he is in.   Karma, so to speak is biting him in the back.
tomorrow i meet with a therapist who does codependence, so looking forward to it. i will share any pearls of wisdom she may offer me..lol