Putting our Problems in Perspective

We are told "other people have had it so much worse".

Being told that sometimes aggravates us. We wear our wounds with bitter pride sometimes. We get into "suffering contests" with others, feeling whatever we were dealt in life was worse than the other fellow.

Having suffered through mental illness periodically through life, having been homeless, having been physically and verbally abused, sometimes I get bitter.

Last Friday I was invited to a party. I was seated next to a woman named Rosalia ("Leah") whom I have known to "see" and to whom I send a holiday card at Hanukkah/Christmas.

We got to talking and she confided that she is a HOLOCAUST SURVIVOR. Born in 1933, she was still a child when confined to the concentration camps. At the end of 1945 when she was released, she was 12 years old and weighed 36 lbs.

I made up my mind right then and there to fight harder. Fight the demon of self-pity in any and all forms. A lot of DS members trying to lose weight have admitted that they often cheat when they start getting angry (that they have to diet). I'm guilty of that.

Leah not only has those horrific memories to deal with, she has diabetes, carpal tunnel, and a husband with cancer in a nursing home. She admits she sometimes asks God, "WHY ME?" But then she says, "Why not me???" Although the Bible states that God doesn't give us more than we can bear, sometimes we weaken and get resentful. Even Jesus in the Garden prayed to be released from his obligation to die on the cross. "Father, if thou be willing, REMOVE this cup from me!"

Let us take up our cross with dignity.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Very true. We are blessed no matter how tough life is. It can always be worse.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Sometimes we are overwhelmed with all we have to deal with and yes I too am guilty of feeling self pity from time to time. A friend once told me to imagine that my problems in life are actually challenges to be conquered, so that when I\'m done I can look back and say, I made it! I try to feel that way and sometimes I manage and other times self pity will rear up it\'s ugly face. One day I was feeling sorry for myself as I stood downtown waiting for a bus...my knee was killing me and it seemed like the bus would never get there. I noticed a man crossing the road and realized he only had one leg....I looked up at the sky and said...I get it....at least I have my leg. My pain didn\'t go away...but at least for a while my attitude improved.
JoyceMarilyn
JoyceMarilyn

Thank you for putting things in prospective for us! Sad thing is that for the biggest share of us we are in a bad way from our own hand. But when there is someone like your friend it really makes one think. Thanks for sharing.
loveblue2
loveblue2

Beautiful journal entry, Judy. I\'ve been trying to remind myself of the perspective thing lately. When I\'ve felt like the wheels have run off of my life, I ask myself, \"...compared to who?\" I know there are millions and millions of people in the world who, if they could trade places with me and step into my life, would literally feel like they had died and gone to heaven.

Everything happens for a reason. As difficult as the difficult times may be, they are placed in our path for a reason, even though we may never know what the reason(s) may be. Rather than cry and whine about it, I\'m resolving to trust God, be brave and FIGHT!

Thanks for the great reminder!
Hugs,
Janice : )
deleted_user
deleted_user

Thanks for reminding me I actually have things good conpared to others. No matter how bad things might seem to me there is always someone else that has things worse. I am praising God for my job and my house and everything He has given me. Thank you fro sharing this
ZECILKL
ZECILKL

Thanks for sharing.
What a wonderful truth you\'ve told us.
It\'s true we all feel sorry for ourselves. Your entry shows us that we all have things that are hard and we must go on.

All i can say is WOW