Proud of Me

I have had opportunity to walk the walk these past few weeks and I am very proud of ME! After my accident, a sister came back into my life that had done some pretty nasty things to me in the past. (My opinion) She is 2yrs. younger than I. She has pretty much been staying in touch once a week or so. We have been doing some shopping together; she is a shopper and I AM NOT. I must say she is very good at it. One weekend I got $170.00 worth of clothes for $79.00. And I must say, they were much needed. When we parted ways a few years ago, she took up with my daughter and her husband (who I wasn't talking to too much either). They became their own big happy family and I was not included. When I have been with my sister these last few times, she tries to talk to me about my son-in-law with whom my issues were with from the get go. I mean talk about him in a negative way. I didn't respond except for saying, "all I know is I am glad my daughter and I are talking again." She kept the talk up, but I chose not to go there. PROUD OF ME. Not playing that kind of game anymore.
Two weeks ago she called me on a Sunday and wanted to know if I wanted to go to the Mall. I said, "no not really. I am cooking right now as I have company coming later this afternoon; plus, I don't need anything." She then said she was going to Kohl's and I said "I may meet you there. I have to run to Walgreen's for some things (they are close) and I do need some dishcloths and dish-towels so call me when you are leaving the Mall and I'll leave at the same time. Ok, ok. She must of hit the "speaker" button instead of the "end" button. This is what I heard to saying to my B-I-L. She is soooooo f'n rude; who in the F does she think she is; it always has to be about her; her and Melissa (her best friend for years) are just f'n rude; I would never act like that. On and on and on. Needless to say, my mouth was open.  Got to Kohls and she hugged me just as usual. We had a fun hour or so.
I am proud of Me because I have not taken this on or taken it personal. She called Friday and wanted me to go to a garage sale with her Saturday. I did. Then I took her to see the movie "42." I can't express how thank-full I am for my growth; this was definitely an opportunity to experience what I believe. Years ago there would have been a huge fight and we would not have spoken for years.
Just wanted to share..Healing can happen!
I love my sister!
Hugszzzz, Vicki

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SuzA66
SuzA66

Healing has happened.

Not taking things personally was, to me, the key. It is definitely her stuff. And I\'m glad you love her anyway.

xx
thegobetween
thegobetween

Wow....good for you! That\'s quite some sister...yikes....but well done xxxx
Richeart
Richeart

Allowing her to be her and have the experiences she is attracting is so good for you. Spiritually she is the same and equal to you. There is nothing to forgive, right? Unless you judge, and then judge yourself. You consciously changed your response to suit your desires. I perceive it as a milestone in awareness and consciousness.

Love and Hugszzz,
Rich
vjewel
vjewel

TGB: Actually she is a wonderful sister. Just wounded as I was wounded and still am at times.
Rich-Heart: Yes, spiritually she is just like me!
There is no need in me to be mad, angry, judgmental; as I have acted out like here a million times in my life. I am aware enough now to simply love her and not give her actions any power as her actions have nothing to do with me.
SuzA66: I think I love her more than I ever have. I have great empathy for the pain she must feels. Being her sister, I understand better than anyone what she holds inside!
Hugszzzz, Vicki
ButterCupPrincess
ButterCupPrincess

Wow Vicki.

I am not there, where you are right now. I would have had a hard time letting go of how hurt I felt over her duplicitous nature. I would be acutely aware of the lack of trust I was feeling. I know that this behavior is truly about her and it is truly due to her own pain that she has and is behaving this way. I have to be honest and say that I am not far enough in my own growth to move past things like this yet. It\'s a tug of war with my thoughts and emotions.

You have reached a place in your spiritual growth that I one day hope to reach. I have nothing but admiration for you.
vjewel
vjewel

BCP:Thank-you! It\'s a first for me. I was shocked at myself when I felt no need to send her a message and say \"you might want to make sure your phone is off before you begin talking; or, tell our other sister whom she is close to because I knew she would tell her.\" It was such a good feeling not to want to \"get back!\" Hope the shift continues.
I don\'t even know if she is aware of what she does. When I met her at Kohls, it was like I was her long lost friend.
Hugszzzz, Vicki