Pros & Cons
PROS:
Good man
handsome
great father
caring
loves the same things I do
dedicated to work
a great provider for our family
dedicated to our children
can fix anything around the house
great lover
devoted to family
loving
funny
willing to help anyone
not judgemental about me
helps with housework
helps with kids
doesn't complain when I am sick
does the laundry
does the dishes
CONS:
Cheated on me with my best friend (who was also next door neighbor)
unfaithful when things were not great in our marriage
Liar
Unemotional
Didn't protect me from his family's hatred
Selfish
Hurt me horribly
So, does the pros outweigh the cons...I don't know! I wish I knew. I needed to list things so that I can help to make a decision as to whether I can save my marriage or not. I need to be able to make sense of what I am feeling. I need to find a way to get back my love for him.
Good man
handsome
great father
caring
loves the same things I do
dedicated to work
a great provider for our family
dedicated to our children
can fix anything around the house
great lover
devoted to family
loving
funny
willing to help anyone
not judgemental about me
helps with housework
helps with kids
doesn't complain when I am sick
does the laundry
does the dishes
CONS:
Cheated on me with my best friend (who was also next door neighbor)
unfaithful when things were not great in our marriage
Liar
Unemotional
Didn't protect me from his family's hatred
Selfish
Hurt me horribly
So, does the pros outweigh the cons...I don't know! I wish I knew. I needed to list things so that I can help to make a decision as to whether I can save my marriage or not. I need to be able to make sense of what I am feeling. I need to find a way to get back my love for him.
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The good definitely outweighs the bad as far as the number of items....is this enough for you or do the cons outweigh the bad because of the magnitude of the hurt that these things caused?
Oh beautiful, I wish I knew....I just feel so dead inside now. He is trying so hard to help me and to make amends. I feel like I just keep punishing us by not being able to get past this. I feel like I have lost all of the love that I had for him. I am having such a hard time getting over him telling me that he loved her, that he wanted to leave me for her, that it went on for 2 years.
We are starting counseling next friday and I hope this will help. We are also taking our kids back to our hometown to visit our families during their spring break on March 22. We want to just spend some time together as a family away from the constant reminders here.
WTF are you describing my life???? this is insane your pros and cons list looks like mine would, except he doesnt have family to hate me. altho all his friends talked crap about me and he still sticks up for them, and all of them are friends with the whore