Progress slow but good

First I would like to say that today is just one of my days that I start to think about this whole horrible experience. We renewed our vows March 26, 2010 and it was a private ceremony , just with our kids and us and the pastor. We sold our old wedding bands and had a new set ( my custom made with my engagement ring and diamonds from a anniversary band. Well anyays we are making a fresh start and both seem to be working on it eqaully. I do however still have bad days ( like today) where I just think , Why did he do this to us?? I guess I am always going to wonder why , since H can't explain why he did.
We really have a great time together on the weekend and most evenings, we spend all are time together and sometimes I wonder if that is healthy. I do not think that here is much communication with the OW. It is hard to say because they both work for the same hospital. I find it hard to beieve that she has not made any contact  wtih him at all.... Great if they haven't but I don't want to be fooled again.
My goals for us now as we approach our D Day is to really start taling about boundaries and how he functions at work, being honest and what we want to see in our marriage 6 months from now. I think that we are slowly working on trust, I don't know if I will 100% trust H , but I think right now we are at 60%