Productive weds.
Well lets see now i saw 3 apartments,have an appt with attorney next tues at lunch time,saw therapist....all in all a productive day,but a sad 1 also....my therapist said she is happy i am online with you lovely-helpful people,as we tend to get our emotions / feelings out more by writing them down,she, as well as all of you, are i believe my angels,as i walk down this road,on some days it is a very rocky road,and other days kinda smooth..........scared a little what my future holds,upset at the 360 degree turn my life has taken in little less than a week,my therapist did say i really should let my mother know about my situation,cuz as she puts it or asked me rather,why wouldnt I let the person who nurtured and raised me,comfort me as well.My mother is 78 and has health issues,to which i am trying not to upset her fully,once i have all my plans in order,then i will tell her,which should be sometime next week,I just wanna see what the lawyer says,this way when my mother barrages me with a 100 questions in less than 5 mins,then i will have solid answers instead of "I dont know" as an answer....I am trying to accomplish 1 goal a day,today is a work day for me,so i need to concentrate on that,cuz i may need time off later on. Have a great day all,and thanks as always.
Faye
Faye
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Faye - It\'s always good to get an \"endorsement\" from a live and in-person therapist! Makes all of us old timers here on DS feel like we really ARE making a difference!
As to telling your Mom, my suggestion is to WAIT until you have all your ducks in a row; then you can just give her the news and if she gets upset and starts the 30 questions in 30 seconds thing, you can just say \"It\'s a done deal, Mom.\" That always seems to be the BEST way to break the news to anyone who loves you and especially the elderly (who tend to fret).
They will NEVER fully understand it (will WE ever fully understand it?) but at least you will be able to present the situation in a positive way, have your plan of attack in place and reassure her that you are taking care of yourself!
my thoughts exactly Kathi...thanks.
You seem to be a pretty stron girl for moving things along as quickly as you have.
The packing process will be another process in your mind to leaving. When I packed, I packed a box that had cards, sentimental gifts, pictures in it to keep out of sight so I wouldn\'t go down memory lane during the healing process.
On the tough moments to keep yourself strong think about what where you want to be in your New Life.
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I will end on a more positive note:
Every time I feel discouraged I close my eyes and visualize the future I want. Then I really open my eyes and start to build it.
Find a way to remind yourself daily of the value of the things you want and getting there will seem effortless.
Every day is a new day. Every day gives me fresh courage, because today is the only day that matters.
I hope you have a good day.
Thanks laurie,its because i am impatient,and slightly OCDish that i try to move things along quickly,I am sure once i am out of the house for good thats when it will truly hit me........just warning you and the others of my venting/crying that is yet to come.....on a brighter note tho I am keeping my Atlantis Bahama trip in the front of my mind........thanks for the support as always.
NOW THAT IS SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO -- I NEVER EVER THOUGHT OF TAKING A TRIP NOW YOU PUT A NEW TWIST TO GETTING DIVORCED, KOOL, THAT\'S PRETTY KOOL,
YiPpEE FOR U, YAYE
A NEW TWIST TO THE HEALING PROCESS.
Well energy seeing as how after 18 yrs i never got my honeymoon----then i might as well go for the Divorce-A-Moon ya know.......clean slate and all that.