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I'm thinking of not posting too much on here anymore...maybe just hanging back or whatever.  I have gotten great advice but unless I can follow it for myself...I feel that I will just bring everyone down.  While I'm good most of the time...lately it's been hard..all the changes are coming all at once and it's overwhelming and depressing, which I'm usually not.  So, I shall see...what to do about DS, not sure.   There are just so many more individuals on here that are so much more attuned to giving better advice or being a better DS friend that me.  However, I do love being here and again, have met some wonderful wonderful people.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

OK...I am really sorry you are feeling horrible..and dont worry about not following advice...this is your story..no one elses...you grieve the way you need to grieve (so long as you look after yourself)..and I can really empathize about all the changes...yes mine were sudden and I have also been overwheled and depressed and dont mind saying have had some days crying uncontrollaby under the blankets..and dont worry about good or bad advice...just be part of the crew......cause we are all going through the same sh*tstorm, we can relate, and its the fact that we have walked the same path i reckon, that created that bond i think....anyway I think your awesome, and that you have great strength and sensitivity and kind heartedness at the same time..anything i can do to help get you out of the [horrible] phase...dont hesitate to let me know...cheers :)
deleted_user
deleted_user

Ok, sweetie, wrong answer..... you are needed just as much as anyone else! You are still pretty new at this, but you can still relate to the things the people are saying, and like you have said yourself, it helps just knowing that you are NOT alone! Please reconsider!
deleted_user
deleted_user

I agree with dan, do what you need to do for yourself. We can give you the best advice we can but this is your situation and it is unique to you. there are lots of similarities to other people\'s but yours is your own. You have helped me when I was down and I hope I have done the same for you. (((((L)))))
deleted_user
deleted_user

Dan was spot on, L. You\'ve been very supportive and helpful to me. Do what you need to do, but don\'t feel like you haven\'t been a good friend. Take care!
llmt
llmt

That is what I feel like I want to be a good friend and good friend I need back. I will stay on and post as necessary. I\'ve made really what I consider good friends here in just a short amount of time. You all are right. I just feel like I dump and I should really be moving on faster than I am. Honestly, the last 3-4 days have been brutal for me and I can find the trigger for me...I just am, so to speak.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Props to Dan. Here\'s my thought, which I have expressed many times. We give what we have, and take what we need. You need, and we have. Continue to take from us what you need, until you are able to give. It\'s what we are here for, it\'s what we do, and what you will do as well.

-Tom
soulman1
soulman1

Similar to Tom. Please dont be afraid to take the Strength that is here....and anywhere you are. Whether its outside and you see the sun shining, you see a baby smiing and it gives you hope....(okay that was a bit cheesy I know :-)

I need to be honest at times (like now) to realise that i need to tap into someting bigger than me to get stronger. left to my own devices....whoooaaa. Thngs just grow arms and legs so to speak. being on here and sharing with friends wherever you get perspective and...HOPE
deleted_user
deleted_user

Late to the party here. I think everyone has probably convinced you to continue here on DS. Just want to add that you should not think that you are only getting help. You explain how you are feeling so well it helps me realize or look at my situation with a better understanding. I almost feel guilty about this because I know it comes out of your pain. Try to be patient with yourself. Sometimes long term progress feels like a setback because it comes with so much hurt. For me each little loss of hope I was holding onto came with more hurt until I changed what my goal was. Once I moved from trying to fix this to trying to fix myself it has been better. Meeting the Philly crew Fri, even the short time I was there, was big for me. Focus on when you feel good and lean on us when you don\'t.
deleted_user
deleted_user

sweet L......please keep posting. If a freakin divorce board is not the place to whine and cry and vent, what is?! I have been a downer lately too, but we can help each other. This isn\'t the place to worry about how much you give or what your posts sound like. Really. We already *heart* you and you can\'t stop posting when you just started! There is like a 90 day rule or something. ;)
soulman1
soulman1

hah hah .......yes L ...as hikerchic says ...\"theres a 90 day rule .......... :-)
deleted_user
deleted_user

STOP IT! YOU ARE AMAZING without even trying....I see you and I get happy. See...no big effort! This is your time to just be still...ask...take and find your footing. WE are all on different stages and some starting all over again with those stages. I too feel useless because I\'m not as forthcoming as I used to be but....but...but....I must be kind to myself. Be kind to yourself and allow us to help you walk. Love ya!