Please help me?!
First a little back story, to explain my issue. OK so I had a baby back in Dec 2011 and I gained 100 lbs (and when I thought it couldn't be worse it was..) So I tried to loose weight, mind you I have always been bigger all through out my life. I got married and yes I am extreamly happy its just...I recently noticed..I'm still getting bigger.. (x.x Grr..) and my husband is actually smaller than me. And before you say its because you eat a lot..(I barley eat once a day..just not hungry) and I really want to loose ..and actually be out of the BBW category but alas I cannot. My family noticed it wasn't "healthy" when I was 7 yrs old. Although they weren't either my mom and my dad both were "bigger". They took me to doctor after doctor after doctor and diet after diet after diet and when I was 17 they gave up. Many doctors said "I'm sorry Mrs. Fugate (my moms last name) but she can never loose weight there's nothing wrong with her...I suggest just try harder..". And in my own way I did I became bulimic and became pill popper. (In 5th grade we watch the self harm video mixed with the sex ed/puberty one) And I saw the girls...so so SO EXTREMELY skinny. I made it my goal to weigh 90 lbs. Did I get there..? Ha! Funny no.. I gained more..@.@ I felt I never could be "pretty" and well enjoy life..so I started to cut (self injure). I destroyed myself. Then my dad my mom my family changed. My dad changed from a loving caring father to a hurtful abusing one. My mom from supportive to neglectful. My family from being their favorite girl in the world to the girl no one in my family talked to (wasn't bad enough I got picked on in school?) I was on a spiral downward. It didn't look pretty.I began to see society loves skinny and hate well me... I wanted to become a model ..so I did a in store model for Fashion Bug(Plus Size Clothing Store) ...but it wasn't enoughIn High School now, they do a sex-ed /drug awareness in school and I began to see pictures of skinny girls because or coke and crack... I thought to myself if I gotta I will...ANYTHING I HAVE TO DO TO BE "SKINNY"!! Then I got my first bf... he was smaller than me, but loved bigger girls..so..it was OK..(or so I thought) laying next to him..him feeling my body my depression became darker.. I felt like I had to keep up on being skinny with him. And I did. I was becoming smaller I don't know how but I did..A few years later I graduated and met my husband ..when we dated I felt like I didn't have to compete with him ( since he was the "biggest" guy I have ever dated). And little did I know when we got married my mom and dad both were HALF MY SIZE! .-. I felt like a blimp!...Please answer them I'd really like feed back..Thanks!~Sriena~Now that's outta the way my questions..1) Do you think I should/need to loose weight?2) Do you think "IF" I lost weight I'd be hotter/sexier/more appealing?3) Do you think I model...(preferably Erotic/BDSM modeling((naked))?4)Did you enjoy my writing?
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heheh well so answer 1, Do you need to loose weight? Personally i say no, however if a doctor has said you are going to become diabetic or something then obviously that opinion changes due to the fact that instead of insulin, you could do that instead.
2: No not really, you are very pretty as is, The fact of the matter is being \"hot\" is a matter of self image. If you are confident in who you are then you will be hot. That is fact. Yes skinny girls probably get laid more, but it is also my belief they have a harder time getting into a long term relationship. Guys liking them for thier body not them, and then once the body is common to them, on to the next.
3: I have no idea if you model, could you? yes i am sure you could.
4: most of the fantasy writing i can\'t read while at work, but the ones i have yes.
I have the same issue as you, i am over weight because i don\'t eat enough and the little i do eat isn\'t the best choices. So there is lots for the body to store away. Trick is to eat more of better foods, however when you arent hungry how do you do that? me personally one way or another i have to lose 30 lbs in the next year :P so i will be at it again.
I agree with WyndWytch. Ur perfect the way u r. :)
Well here we go:
1:Do I think you should or not lose weight...no you should be happy with who you are.
2:Hmmm, being a guy...I think you look hot and am not sure if a smaller you would be hotter..but you rock girl.
3. I was gonna ask if you thought about about erotic modeling...because from the pics you\'ve posted and from what I can se I think theres potential.
4. I always enjoy any and all writings you put up.
1. up to u.
2. maybe
3. maybe
4. most of the time
hi sriena
:- )
my answersd ...
1) i\'m 25 - 30 kgs heavier than i should be. My answer is yep, you should, The links between overwieght and heart disease, diabetes, leg joint damage, sleep apneas, difficulty falling pregnant etc are fair clear. No aesthetic judgemnent, purely health - the answer has to be a yes
2) anly if you yourself think you would feel hotter, sexier, more appealing then the answer must be a yes
3) if you think you\'d enjoy it - thren the aanswer\'s gotta be a big yes
4) definitely a big yes also
lol
Well to answer #1, I think that you should strive to be at a healthy weight, as being overweight increases risks for a variety of diseases and bodily damage. I think if you\'re going to try to lose weight, it should always be in the healthiest way possible. Eating disorders just damage your body and your mind (I\'ve been there). Eating healthy and getting in some exercise everyday will help you to become healthy, and you\'ll notice a change in weight. All I want is for you to feel your best and to feel good about yourself, hun.
For #2, I can\'t really answer that question. If you think that you would feel hotter, sexier, and more appealing at a lower, healthier weight, then you will. But don\'t do it for anyone but you. Changing your weight requires a change in lifestyle, so it needs to be for you or it won\'t stick.
As for #3, sure why not! If you wanna do it, then go for it.
And for #4, yes :)
But all in all, don\'t strive to be \"skinny.\" Skinny girls may seem to get better attention, and some probably do; but I was always a skinny girl and I hated it. Skinniness comes with its own problems. I was always bullied and hated on by both guys and girls. Guys thought my skinniness was gross, and girls were either jealous or thought the same thing the guys did. Strive for healthiness.
I actually really like the last reply, but ultimately it\'s up to you. I think you are fine just the way you are now, however, if you are unhappy with your appearance & want to change, then you should go for it. Diet & exercise would probably be the best way to go. I work out everyday, & I am on a strict gluten-free, low-sugar, low-fat diet. It sucks, because you may not be able to eat your favourite foods, or not as much. And working out is tough, but if you stick to it, you might be very happy with the results.
As for your questions.
1) Answer: only you can decide that. Not unlike your husband perhaps, I don\'t mind \"big\" chicks, so a little weight doesn\'t bother me, on the contrary.
2) Answer: That\'s difficult to say. There was a receptionist at my doctors office who was morbidly obese, & I would often comment to my friend that \"if she lost weight\" she\'d be much more attractive. One day I went to see my doctor & I did not recognise this woman because she had lost tons of weight. She did NOT look \"hotter\", infact it was the complete opposite. She looked way better with her weight. So it\'s really tough to say cos you never know what you\'re gonna look like.
3) Answer: l don\'t know much about these things, but I don\'t see why not. BDSM would be awesome, or naked.
4) Answer: I think you have a way with words. You should write erotic novels.
Good Luck.