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Need opinions here, Dave called me tonight to tell me he is taking his ex for her angiogram. There is no one else who can take her. Her mother is to old, her one daughter just had a baby, the other daughter can't take any more time off work since she has taken time off for 2 different weddings, (one was her step brothers) and her brother is dead. He also said she was there for him when he had his heart attack and his prostate problem. So I guess he feels he should do this. He was volunteered by his daughter. He told me so that I didn't hear it from someone else. Am I happy about this? No but there is not much I can do about it. I told Dave that I turst him. But it's her I don't trust. He has told me a few times he will not go back to her. So now I have this to worry about. But at least he told me cuz he could easily have lied and said he went to work. So far I have not caught him in a lie. I will be seeing him tomorrow (Sunday) and just hope I can deal with it face to face with him.
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In my opinion, Dave handled the situation perfectly. He told you up front, which demonstrates he is trustworthy. He also obviously trusts you to handle the news well. For the sake of your relationship with him, I believe it's important that you support his decision to help his ex. If you react poorly, Dave will be hesitant to be honest with you about similar situations in the future.
Personally, I think the fact that Dave is willing to help his ex, given there is no one else to help her, shows he has a very good heart. The situation would be different if his ex had other options, but she doesn't. Even though I totally understand your concerns about his ex, I think you would also admit that it would be cruel of him to refuse to help in this situation. Sounds like you landed yourself a good one!
I hope your conversation with him today goes well. Hugs!
I only asked him why amber, her daughter could not take a sick day or vacation day and he told me what he said before, that she had no more time off. He said he was not happy that she volunteered him. I told him I was not happy about it and hoped it wouldn't change anything with us. Since then it has not. Altho today he has not called me. But then he did work all day, which he usually doesn't do on Sats. Maybe he'll call tomorrow. I was over there last night till 10 pm and I know I can't see him everyday.
I'm glad that nothing has changed. I hope things work out well for the two of you. Hugs!
Ladybug7
Need someone to talk to. Sunday Dave and I had another argument. I had a bad day and should have not even gone over there. Now he is mad at me and I don't know if I'll see him again. I couldn't sleep last night and had a good cry and today I am so tired. He says I keep doing this and it will drive him away from me. I just need assurance of him being in my life. He said he can't commit now and don't know if he can even love again or even give me what I need and want. But yet he says he enjoys us being together and when I said I know you don't have feelings for me but will you ever and he said I never said that and don't put words in my mouth. I don't know why I keep bugging him about our relationship. What is wrong with me?
Thanks for reading this.