People you meet in life

At this point, it feels like the most important person in my life is my HR director at my work.  She is a Psychologist and Anthropologist, and she has become in a way a sort of mentor for me. The woman to whom I moved to this town and I are attempting to remain friends, however my nature of sharing my observations of someone (even just to help) has only alienated her from me more.  This has brought me despair, because I only care to help.  Something Taylor (my HR director) told me that will forever stick with me this morning is this.  "As a healer, you will want to do everything in your power heal, but you cannot heal someone until they ask you to be healed"  "You will be giving advice, and comforting others, but you also have to learn when only to listen and not produce your talent of understanding, because not all the time are they ready to hear it." 

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That is so very true.
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As long as you dont pull the carpet out from under them to make them fail. You are right you can only change yourself others have to be willing to change themselves
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Thank you for sharing Chuggs. It is very sound advice. Hugs
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very powerfull stuff. sounds like the EST training i took years ago.
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Chuggs,

There\'s a big difference between \"observations,\" \"advice,\" \"comfort,\" and \"help.\"

Remember, NOBODY LIKES TO BE CRITICIZED. NOBODY.

Hugs, Chuggs,

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\'you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink\'....in so many words....
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Well said.
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First, do no harm. or something like that
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So glad to see you back dear Chuggs. Medical School sounds like a huge undertaking and I sincerely wish you all the best. June
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She sounds like a good mentor.........Welcome back