People disappoint me
Just when I thought that I am going to start a new life in the collage after being locked in my house and abused by my parents for 5 years, I met a guy who i thought he is a friend, a close friend, I am not yet sure though
one night we sat and we had a huge argument of whose life is worse, he got mad at me and turned around and said he has terminal illness, brain tumour, we both started crying and I told him about mines.
After that I question myself a lot, if has a terminal illness how come he wants to study 6 years, I haven't seen him take any medications nor a sign of symptoms so is he lying to use me since he asks for me money alot
His behaviour outside my house is different, he ignores me completely, he talks to me like a classmate instead of a friend and he hangs out with a girl who is not his girlfriend
when i asked him about his behaviour in my house he said he once was raped thats why he doesnt like to talk to boys, but its weird psychologically it doesnt make sense he can talk to me privately without any problems
Days passed and everyday showed me a different story of him, he once added vodeka in my drink when he knows my religion forbids me from drinking alcohol, he literally slipped the vodeka in my coke and his excuse was that he forgot, and i was offended but i forgave him..i mean i did the right thing right?
I am confused is he lying about things, is our friendship built with lies?
one night we sat and we had a huge argument of whose life is worse, he got mad at me and turned around and said he has terminal illness, brain tumour, we both started crying and I told him about mines.
After that I question myself a lot, if has a terminal illness how come he wants to study 6 years, I haven't seen him take any medications nor a sign of symptoms so is he lying to use me since he asks for me money alot
His behaviour outside my house is different, he ignores me completely, he talks to me like a classmate instead of a friend and he hangs out with a girl who is not his girlfriend
when i asked him about his behaviour in my house he said he once was raped thats why he doesnt like to talk to boys, but its weird psychologically it doesnt make sense he can talk to me privately without any problems
Days passed and everyday showed me a different story of him, he once added vodeka in my drink when he knows my religion forbids me from drinking alcohol, he literally slipped the vodeka in my coke and his excuse was that he forgot, and i was offended but i forgave him..i mean i did the right thing right?
I am confused is he lying about things, is our friendship built with lies?
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I sorry but I definitely think he is playing you, it pretty evident from his behavior, which is ever changing. I would this guy is messed up but maybe more mentally and I wouldn\'t urge you to seek new friends. when I had been hurt I made plenty of mistakes of thinking certain people cared about me when they really just wanted something else, like someone to drive them around while they did cocaine, one was a male who just wanted to sleep with me. I learned if any of these people in my gut felt wrong I didn\'t persue them. Also for since you do have material wealth I would let people know by telling them about it that much. But considering you probably dress nice and have top technology they are going to assume. It easy to figure out the money seekers. For lunch go somewhere that is just a mom and pop resturant, nothing expensive, ask them to do things that are all about spending money all the time, studying, walking , hiking somehting like that. Things you like to do that are you. If the person likes being around you, doesn\'t always ask for money. That should just been the big Oh moment for you. It different if someone ask for a buck or something for drink at school and they pay you back. Your \"friends\" actions are just not respectful at all. He found out that he could walk all over you, but putting alcohol in you drink is unforgiveable. Maybe he thought would be funny but you don\'t do that to someone. I would go with him lying. I am sorry but this like I told you has happened to all of use when first try to make friends. He is definitely not the only person out there how want to be your friend. I know it hard to make frineds. I don\'t have any now because I house bond, but when we really don\'t know who to socialize or our confidence has been smuch it makes it harder and we tend to try to please who ever seems interested in us and forget to use the gut instince of weather this person is lying, using us. Sadly, I had to come to the same conclusion you have about this \"friend\". He is out of hand and is doing anything he can to keep a connection with but simply for himself not for you. Naturally selfish people who really don\'t care about other\'s feellilng but always looking out for what they need. It is a part of growing up. finding good friends and it is a process. Keep you chin up. don\'t let this loset back in you life. He is their for you but for him. Go out and find people that have the same interests as you. Go on the internet and look up clubs that you can attend and it will much easier to take to people who have some of the same likes as you do. if you don\'t like it you can try a different meeting , there are some many interest clubs. Why don\'t you try those. there not for losers a lot of people go to these things.