Our Trip
I found out this week exactly how my sisters feel about my H and me. I can understand their hostility towards him for what he has done to me but I can't understand not wanting to even see me because I am trying to reconcile with him. Except for having an affair, he is still the same person they have known for all these years. It hurts to know that they feel that way towards me for trying to save my marriage. I would think that they would want me to try to keep us together if it is meant to be. I would think that they would have been proud of me for not giving in and taking the easy way out by divorcing him immediately. I had thought they would support me...evidently they don't.
They feel that I am making a huge mistake by staying. They can't forgive him...well, it is not their place to forgive...it is mine!!!
I feel alone in this without my family. I guess that I should not be surprised. My sisters have not ever really supported me they way they should. Neither one of them has supported me with anything I have done. They did not think I could go to college and work a job simultaneously...I did it but they didn't. They did not think that I should marry...I have been married now for 16 years and have 2 great kids because of it. They did not think that I would be a good mother...and still don't though I don't know why. They didn't think we should have moved from our hometown to a place 4 hrs away...we love it here. They told me that I would never get a job working the hours I needed in order to be at home with my kids when they get in from school....well, I did! They told me that I would not amount to much...well, I make more than they do and have a steady job where my boss respects me (well, ok, he does most days)!
I think I am going to give up on getting their approval or even giving a crap what they think about me, my family or my life. They don't ask my approval or acceptance for their lives or choices, why should I need theirs? I DON"T!!!
All I want is sisterly support...geez is that so wrong? It is a crying shame when my friends and this DS site give me more support than my own sisters. WTH!!! I hope that they never have to go through what I am. I don't wish this on them no matter what.
They feel that I am making a huge mistake by staying. They can't forgive him...well, it is not their place to forgive...it is mine!!!
I feel alone in this without my family. I guess that I should not be surprised. My sisters have not ever really supported me they way they should. Neither one of them has supported me with anything I have done. They did not think I could go to college and work a job simultaneously...I did it but they didn't. They did not think that I should marry...I have been married now for 16 years and have 2 great kids because of it. They did not think that I would be a good mother...and still don't though I don't know why. They didn't think we should have moved from our hometown to a place 4 hrs away...we love it here. They told me that I would never get a job working the hours I needed in order to be at home with my kids when they get in from school....well, I did! They told me that I would not amount to much...well, I make more than they do and have a steady job where my boss respects me (well, ok, he does most days)!
I think I am going to give up on getting their approval or even giving a crap what they think about me, my family or my life. They don't ask my approval or acceptance for their lives or choices, why should I need theirs? I DON"T!!!
All I want is sisterly support...geez is that so wrong? It is a crying shame when my friends and this DS site give me more support than my own sisters. WTH!!! I hope that they never have to go through what I am. I don't wish this on them no matter what.
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I\'m sorry that you have to go through this kind of pain from your own sisters!! You would think that they would stick by you no matter what but it sounds like they never have been very supportive. They probably just don\'t understand because they haven\'t walked in our shoes. I use to say that I would leave if my husband did this to me & I didn\'t understand why anyone would want to stay with a person who had betrayed them in such a horrible way. However it isn\'t that cut & dry when you find yourself in the middle of facing infidelity yourself as we know now. Don\'t let anyone judge you!! You are doing the right thing trying to save your marriage if it can be saved & become stronger. You have alot of history with your husband & two wonderful children together. That is worth fighting for. Keep your head up & I wish you all the best!!
I am so fortunate that my sister has been there for me since day one. It is so comforting to know that I can turn to her anytime with anything. I pray your sisters will come to their senses & be there to support you whatever your decision is for your marriage.
I know what you mean. I used to say the same thing. I even said to him several times while he was having the affair. Scary huh!
They don\'t know how it is. They think they know how they will react but i guarantee THEY DON\'T!!! I am going to give my all to trying to salvage our marriage. If it is meant to be ...we will succeed!
Thanks for the support and keep your head up also!
YOU SHOULD DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND CHILDREN,YOU DON\'T NEED THEIR APPROVAL ,IT SEEMS YOU ARE MORE THAN CAPABLE OF LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF,THOSE WE LOVE CAN HURT US MORE THAN WE WILL EVER KNOW.MUCH LOVE LUCY..