our goals
As I see it H and I have a common goal. Marital unity and happiness; but we also have different goals to work on.
My goal is to make sure that the things that led me to the A are far far behind me and to always keep up my guard so even the early stages of an A will never get started. That is an inappropriately close friendship. Companionship. The kind of thing that leads to more than just friends. Also I had a bit of a midlife crisis sex addiction. The craving was for sexual adventure and new experiences. This I have to deal with so it will not best me again. Need to lock that craving away. I can have so much fun and adventure with H and we have been. Also, I had to shut myself down spiritually to do what I was doing and my goal is to become the spiritual and praying person I was before. I struggle more within my head when I forget to pray through it.
My H's goals are his own but as I see it his goal is to learn to deal with his knowledge of what I have done. That is the hardest of all. He has also been dealing with accepting what was lost from our relationship. Figuring out where we go from here and how to get there. I know he has other goals and things he is working on in this process.
I feel we are doing well with the good books we are reading, the counseling and the homework from her, and our priest is working with us as well. We are spending so much more time together and focused on each other. I feel we are recapturing how we felt when we were dating.
Never been through anything like this so don't really know how it will go for the long haul but for now I am thankful for H and for how things are going right now.
My goal is to make sure that the things that led me to the A are far far behind me and to always keep up my guard so even the early stages of an A will never get started. That is an inappropriately close friendship. Companionship. The kind of thing that leads to more than just friends. Also I had a bit of a midlife crisis sex addiction. The craving was for sexual adventure and new experiences. This I have to deal with so it will not best me again. Need to lock that craving away. I can have so much fun and adventure with H and we have been. Also, I had to shut myself down spiritually to do what I was doing and my goal is to become the spiritual and praying person I was before. I struggle more within my head when I forget to pray through it.
My H's goals are his own but as I see it his goal is to learn to deal with his knowledge of what I have done. That is the hardest of all. He has also been dealing with accepting what was lost from our relationship. Figuring out where we go from here and how to get there. I know he has other goals and things he is working on in this process.
I feel we are doing well with the good books we are reading, the counseling and the homework from her, and our priest is working with us as well. We are spending so much more time together and focused on each other. I feel we are recapturing how we felt when we were dating.
Never been through anything like this so don't really know how it will go for the long haul but for now I am thankful for H and for how things are going right now.
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