One Day!!!!

The word ONE DAY!
It means alot to us girls on here.
One day we will be a mommy or a daddy!
One day we will get our BFP!
One day it will happen!
One day this one day that!
That word makes me wanna scream out loud!
I would like to hear my doctor say, or even see on my pg stick the word CONGRATS YOUR GONNA BE A MOMMY, OR THE + OR  ll OR PREGNATE signs on the stick!
Im just so sick of feeling bla all the time or that im going crazy. I have tried the journal the telling myself im gonna be a mommy im gonna get pregnate. thought about buying stuff little by little. But to be honest, i feel like a nutso doing so. the journal isnt so bad cuz i have always thought about doing it then i just finaly did one day, but telling myslef that all the time and thinking about buying stuff makes me feel like im trying to hard im thinking about it to much. Im not saying that those of you who do buy stuff now or tell yourself that to keep positive thoughts going are nuts, im just saying i feel like i am. i dotn want to offend any of you by saying that cuz that is not what im trying to say at all.
i just want to stop feeling down all of the time i want the answers right now. why cant a doctor know what is wrong with a girl instead of making her do this and do that. it gets frustrating real bad. i guess i just look into things way to much. im just ready to be a mommy and my husband is ready to be a daddy. lets just hope that one day comes soon lol.

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deleted_user

I\'m sorry you are having a bad day. I can completely relate. It is really hard to stay positive and I don\'t actually believe that any of us are positive all the time. It\'s literally impossible. We all get irritated, upset, sad and overall blah feelings too. We can all relate and I hope you find comfort from this website. There is nothing we all want more than for each and every one of us to receive our dreams of being parents. 4 years is a long time, and in May, it will be 4 years for my husband and I. (not necessarily TTC but sex without contraception) and we have nothing to show for it. Not one single BFP. Not one single shred of hope in a pregnancy. I\'ve had people tell me \"one day\" too and you\'re right, it does no good. However, after I vent (and I vent and am negative and sad literally once a week) the rest of the time I make myself be positive and optimistic in motherhood. I know that one day I will get to be a mother. I hate that it has taken so long and I don\'t know when it will even happen, but I have to remain positive for the most part.

To some people, it is crazy to buy things for a child you don\'t even have. But, people save up money to go on a vacation they may never get to go on. People buy clothes a few sizes too small in hopes that they will one day fit into them again. People plan their whole lives and I believe in staying proactive and if that means buying some diapers, baby wipes, books and things for our future baby, then I am happy to do it. I don\'t think that any of us are really destined to never be parents. I think we all will get that if we really want it, someday. It just takes longer than any of us wish it did.

I hope you\'re doing better today and have gotten your happy personality back. If not, that is okay. It is absolutely necessary to grieve and be sad. TTC and Infertility is really hard. I\'m hoping you get your blessing sooner than later.

XoXo,
Audrey
mrsManuel
mrsManuel

Audrey thankyou so much, everything that you said made me feel so much better you honestly put a smile on my face. and you know what your right. people do buy clothes size to small or all that stuff you said so what is it going to hurt for me to buy lil things that ill need eventually. thankyou so much for everything you have helped me realize some things. and thanks for being a friend to me. god bless you :)
xoxox
jessica