on hold
Husband admitted he's not quite ready. T-Man seems to have settled down and is pretty much following the rules.
Although I know he's smoking pot and drinking, based on his FB, we have not seen him under the influence. Obviously, it doesn't matter whether we have or not but I know it's a matter of time when we probably will. Since this is progressive disease - things are certain to escalate at some point. I talked to a guy who had stopped using for 5 years, started back drinking an occasional beer here and there, gradually moving to weed and other "things", and eventually after 3 years things around him started falling a part - he lost his job, house, and the girl he was to marry. On the other hand, my friend's son had one beer (after being in recovery for a year) and things quickly went in a downward spiral within a week. Every person's story and experience is different so it's hard to tell when - when they're going to fall and when and if they want help. Not clear cut. Wish it were in some ways so that one would have a better idea as to what or when to expect.....
Although I know he's smoking pot and drinking, based on his FB, we have not seen him under the influence. Obviously, it doesn't matter whether we have or not but I know it's a matter of time when we probably will. Since this is progressive disease - things are certain to escalate at some point. I talked to a guy who had stopped using for 5 years, started back drinking an occasional beer here and there, gradually moving to weed and other "things", and eventually after 3 years things around him started falling a part - he lost his job, house, and the girl he was to marry. On the other hand, my friend's son had one beer (after being in recovery for a year) and things quickly went in a downward spiral within a week. Every person's story and experience is different so it's hard to tell when - when they're going to fall and when and if they want help. Not clear cut. Wish it were in some ways so that one would have a better idea as to what or when to expect.....
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