OMG HES MADE ME CRY AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just had a call from my stbx to tell me he has just spoken to the kids and whats this about i dont want him in my house on xmas day.I said well im sorry but its true i dont want you here.I just got a mouthful of abuse,whats my problem,i said i wouldnt stop him seeing the kids,oh and im a selfish c**t.Well i think i have every right to not want him in my house,he has broken my heart repeatidly this past year.The kids are older now and its funny he only wants to see them when he feels like it.He said whats differant about this year to last,i said ive been throug a lot this year and he had the cheek to say that hes been through loads this year too.(PLEASE)he chose to leave us and is in his second relationship since he left for the last time in october.Am i being selfish? should i let him in even though i cant stomache seeing him?should i do it for the kids sake?

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Nix192, Why can\'t the kids just go to his place? Why is he insisting on seeing them at your place? How old are the kids?
deleted_user
deleted_user

You don\'t have to spend Xmas with him. He has the right to see the kids, but it doesn\'t have to be at your house. I don\'t think the kids want to see you miserable on Xmas. Is there a solution you can both agree on? Hugs...
deleted_user
deleted_user

Frig him..Tell he can have Christmas eve or Boxing day. You look after the kids and you want that day. He should understand he is NOT Welcome in YOUR house. good on you. You know your right...
Karl42
Karl42

He should not expect to come into your house,under the circumstances and i can see why you dont want him to come in,you are been rational,there must be somewhere else he can see the children,hugs
nix192
nix192

Thankyou guys,He cant have them at his because he has moved in with OW no2 and hes only been there a week.Our kids are 16 and 20 so its not like they are babies and he is just being horrid to me cause he cant have his own way as i would usually cave in.