OK, now I hurt her

The Vietnamese honey hasn't responded to my last text, so I'm sure she was offended.  But c'mon...the writing was on the wall.  When she and I first started going out, I was instantly smitten, but she was aloof.  OK, I'm not Brad Pitt and am thus an acquired taste, but I then created a monster, buying her candy and gifts and doling out lavish amounts of cash for our meals in the most expensive restaurants in the tri-county area...what was I thinking?   3 years later, she called me out of the blue wanting to hang out again, and I prodded her into the question "why do you like me"?  The answer was because I'm funny and sweet and spoil her.  Not because I'm hunky and physically fit?  Hmmm...again, the writing's on the wall.  Physical attraction is an important part of a relationship for me, and I love wooing a woman, but not at the expense of some physical lust on her part.  The next relationship will be a small first date.  I'm looking for her first reaction when I ask her for her phone #.  If there's a gleam in her eye, great...maybe there's a future in it.

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Kool I feel the exact same way. One reason my exfiance was after other women was because I\'m not his ideal bodytype. He\'s into skinny... not me. It is very important to me as well to find someone who is really, truly into my body. It is nice that they like our minds but can\'t they like the physical too! You\'ll find her out there Kool.
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As I get older, I\'m becoming less \"choosey\" about physical types. I\'m still pretty lean and lanky though so I look for a similar type in a woman. This Vietnamese honey is 5\'8\" and is small boned, so, at age 45, she\'s still very thin and has a nice hourglass shape, with small breasts and a lovely curve outward at her midsection that flows out to her cute little bubble buns and muscular legs. And she doesn\'t even exercise! Eats very little though. Needless to say I\'m smitten and enamored. Don\'t know why she doesn\'t find me physically attractive. I guess she concentrates on my face, and, well, I\'m not a pretty boy like Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp, more like Ed Harris. But I have a sexy, disarming smile and my body looks good, if she\'d let me take my clothes off and show her LOL. Oh, well...next...someone will find me a hunk. I\'m sure there are plenty of guys who swoon over your Marilyn Monroe type too LOL!
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physical appearance doesnt make a person, its whats on the inside, money aint the value of a relationship either, your heart and honesty, trust in that, stop looking for the slim figure, barbie doll and then you will find true love, yes bueaty is in the eye of the beholder, but the beholder is in the eye of their or your heart.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I know that, honey, and I do see and love her heart and mind, especially now that she\'s opened up to me in our last phone conversation. She\'s really a beautiful person. In typical \"good girl\" fashion, she\'s just not into the sex stuff, at least with me, so any lasting bond would be satisfying for me on an emotional level only. We\'ve determined that we should just be friends.