Oh what a beautiful day.....

  Sun is out, temp rising, stbx finally, after urging by both attys, to get the taxes filed, did so.  Now when the return comes in I can think of moving out....moving on.....   Some members do not understand that people just move on and not look back.   It is very hard to do. but what keeps me positive is what will the future bring, not what the past has done, good or bad.  The past for what ever reason is the past, we can't change or alter it. It's over, all the should have, what ifs will not change a thing.  I try to learn from the past and do better in the future, When looking at the past you need to look at both the good and the bad.  The good always looks better and we try to look over the bad. But the bad is what got us to this page, whether it was our bad or their bad.  Most of us (on this page) are the one's that got dumped on.  The dumpers typically need less support and don't visit much.  So I plan on taking the big load that was dumped on me and turn it into fertilizer grow a bunch of beautiful flowers and then give them to friends..  What's the saying, if given lemons, I'm going to make lemonade out of them.  Having CHF, I have learned that life is short, and precious, not to be taken for granted.  I try hard to make positive, and bring happiness to all around me,  even the stbx.  When asked "How are you today?" My reply is "I'm upright and breathing.......everything else is a plus!"  Trying to stay positive can be very difficult, depending on the size of the load dropped on you, but try to see the good, don't dwell on the bad, make the effort to see the light at the end of the tunnel.