Not sure

 Ok so me and my gf have been together 6 months now we did live together and then moved to oregon well me and her family mostly her mom ended up butting heads pretty bad and i vented to the wrong peiple at work and it got back to the family and i got kicked out and now living back in cali. Me and my gf are still together but doing long distance. Today she asked me if i was ok if she got pregnant now she is the butch of the relationship im the fem i wanted to be first bit her being 30 she feels her time is running out.  She found a doaner and is going to do it all on her own and said once we get married i can adopy the child amd then my pregnancy me and her can do together but i camt go to amy drs appointments or be there for the birth because of her mother i feel this isnt fair but i love her so much should i stay with her and support her??? I need opinions at first i cried and said thats not fair amd she said whatever your taking a chance of a baby away from me im sad but still want to be with her please give me some opinions or if anyone has experienced this before... thank you