Not real good

Wow, I'd like to journal more.  They've kicked us off any personal use of our work computer and by the time I get home I am done give out, especially with the demands of the season.  Errrrr......
Really struggling with my latest 'thing'.  Been going on since Sept.  MD basically blew me off, take Imodium he says.   Rheumy sent me for colonoscopy, nothing  ....... Different day - crazy pleurisy, ended up in my chest, EKG's, etc.=nothing..... Different day - same thing - just add vomiting........sent for ultrasound of gall bladder=nothing.  Still sick sent  for Hida Scan and, TaDa, there is some block between my liver and gall bladder.  Off to meet surgeon on Friday.  Feel like I've wasted 3 months because MD has become apathetic.  Errrr....
Hating the husband.  He is dealing with his own issues at work and is completely self absorbed at this time.  I am in almost constant pain and living off oatmeal.  He is typical man, useless, especially during the holidays.  Asshole.   Errrr.....

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kitty3
kitty3

People within a relationship when they have what seems like a mountain of personal issues to deal & cope with usually end up letting those issues transform into a brick wall between them. There is only one word that can start to knock that wall down - COMMUNICATION.
I think you have to attempt to open lines of communication between both of you. Have you tried picking a time when you\'re both at home, be it right before bed, during dinner etc. etc. & both of you starting to open lines of communication. All things being equal you each listen to the other and/or even decide what you\'d like to talk abt & see where things go.
When you see the surgeon on Fri it might be a good idea to take a full note of what\'s transpired to date (all the run around) & make it plain that you want the cards on the table, plain and simple & see where things go from there.
SleepyT
SleepyT

Kitty, you always put it in perspective, thank you.
He is a good man. He was born in 67 and raised by his mom and grandma but still, somehow, he has that old fashioned \"woman\'s work\" mentality. With working full time this has never been equitable. The man has never cleaned a toilet, ever, in his life. I still find that amazing. He whines like a 7 year old when I vacuume (does he think magic fairies come silently in the night for carpet cleaning?) and still he can whine that he \'worked all week\' when I ask for assistance on something.
But you\'re right, I need to count my blessings, which are many, and the man does love to cook :). Thanks for always being there fot me. XOXO-teisha
deleted_user
deleted_user

Hi, I\'m sorry you have to deal with a doc who just doesn\'t seem to take your symptoms seriously. I personally refuse to complain to the doctors anymore. If I can handle the complications, then I just let it pass. I\'ve become so discouraged at this point.

I agree with Kitty. Communication is the key. You say your husband was raised by his mother and grandmother. They I\'m sure were old school and treated him like a king, because he was a male. Mothers\' have a ttendcy to treat their sons like that. Talk to him about that too. He has to understand that you work and are tired also. In this day and age men help at home.

I hope things get better for you soon. My prays are with you.

Hugs, Kim
brunob
brunob

I\'m glad you found out what was causing you so much trouble. I hope it all turns out well.
Would hubby agree to a cleaning lady coming in to help if he won\'t? My hubby is self employed and never knows how much he will be working, and with me having lost a bit more lung capacity I can\'t do much anymore, so we are looking at getting someone in maybe twice a month to keep up on things.
Maybe then he might realize how much you are struggling.

Be well
Beth
deleted_user
deleted_user

I must say they took their time finding the problem. Glad that they did. Hoping Friday will bring good results. I have been in a similar situation myself. Test after test with nothing showing up. Vomiting and diarrhea, in and out of hospital. 2 and 1/2 months. Till they did an angiogram. Blood flow to the bowl was just coming from a tiny vein. Major arteries were blood clotted. Surgery was a must.
I hear were you are coming from when it comes to the \"Husband\" Off in their own world, won\'t help around the house, not being understanding. Hang in there. He will eventually come around.
I do like the idea Beth has suggested. A cleaning lady... oh I would love to have one come in even if it\'s once a month. I can\'t look after everything.
You are in my prayers. Hugs and love Nance
deleted_user
deleted_user

Very happy that you found the culprit in the newest med issue. Sorry the Hubby is not open to you. I agree, you must talk.