not much mental progress
I feel very depressed lately. I feel I cannot focus at work, do simple chores or errands at home, or even take care of my animals. I try my best to block out my ex & what she has done to me, and even recently someone new in my life betray my trust. There are times in my day I just am at work & I want to just go home & hang myself. I am supposed to be moved out of here by the end of the month because its a seasonal rental, but I also have no motivation to look for a new place. I wish I had help, but I can be so ashamed to ask for it at times.
Replies
Please accept my hug as you share the same problem of lies and deception. My hug to you is the awareness that I have discovered of the reasons why we lie, lies by omission, lies just because. Through working with an amazing Therapist, I learned that my accumulated fears of not being worthy enough, are the main cause. We live in our heads and sometimes our hearts but we never learned how to find our safe places within our selves.....My therapist helped me realize that \"We\" all need to live within ourselves in 3 places. 1) Our Head, Our Hearts and Our Safe Place (Belly). Think if what you are about to say is \" Judgmental or Compassionate\" When ever the conscious mind sends a signal for us to open our mouth and spew out a lie, practicing to first think about our heart and then from our safe place and then our mouth. Like trying to exercise for months to get into good physical shape, if you stop exercising once you get into shape, then you will fall back to the old patterns. Same as telling lies. Once you stop telling lies, you must continue to speak from your safe place and your heart place and not from the head. Think of this. People that are not liars can pick up immediately that you are a liar. Liars cannot hide for long. When you walk into a room and people see you, they also feel your energy. Do you wish them to feel your lies or feel your compassion? The fear of being exposed as a liar are the best tools you have to overcome our problem. Use the fear of discovery of your lies to find your safe compassionate place. I hope that this makes sense and I wish that you may find your path to a happier healthier way of life. I am very happy to communicate with you out there that may wish to find the path out of our lies. By helping you helps me. Liarnomore