Not fooled anymore!

I sent out the divorce papers yesterday.  I am beginning to see his pattern of manipulation.  He sent an email the other day explaining how he has come to the realization that he's sleep deprived.  We've been all through this before.  Staying up all night chatting with a sleazebag from Russia, Not to mention all the porn you can find will cause sleep deprivation.  He thinks I'm going to be fooled all over again.  He also keeps crying poverty which is also bull crap.  He makes money and hardly pays anything and has no money?  WTF?!!  Here is the icing on the cake...He asked to come to Georgia this weekend to pick up his PASSPORT!  Again, WTF!!!?  So he could get a licence from PA.  Well, lets just say, I lost it.  I told him I didn't remember where I put it and he went nuts!  A bit of an overreaction for someone only wanting to get their license.  I told him he was full of shit and he started crying (no doubt to manipulate me)  I asked if he could use another form of ID and I'd even overnight it to him.  He finaly had to admit that his birth certificate would work but wouldn't admit why he really called (passport).  He was so frustrated and pissed!!  He had to back peddle and pretend he wasn't.  He claimed he wanted to see the kids but when I said he couldn't stay here and I was tired of the BS and anxiety he said he couldn't afford to come.  He does have a brother in the area that he won't talk to because he is ashamed and doesn't want to hear how pissed off everyone is at him.  I told him if he had to he could stay with him.I feel so empowered!  However, I am sure he is trying to go and see his Russian hosebag which should hurt and probably will tomorrow.   Thanks for reading and thanks in advance for commentingWith love,Cherie

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Cherie,
You should feel empowered, you were strong. Good for you for not believing all the bull shit. Wow it sounds like he is lost, like my stbx. Hang in there.
trisha9054
trisha9054

Porn seems to be a common theme with some of our ex\'s. You did good. You were strong and focused.

My ex cries about money too. When I left I took on all the bills and he didn\'t have any bills to pay. IT\'s not my fault the new wife is high maintenance.
hairymick
hairymick

Hi Hun,

Here is what I think.

1. Your STBX is trying to manipulate you for sure.
2. He has no money because he is sending it to is Russian whore.
3. He has no money because he is trying to scrimp and save for another trip to Russia.
4. The tears are bullshit.

Fuck him girl, twist the knife whenever you get the opportunity and sink the boot in while he is down!

Love and support to you hun, as allways.

Mick
deleted_user
deleted_user

Cherie,
Sending you all my support and prayers and my hopes that the process will be a lot smoother than how you got there. Take care. Love and support from Mulish
Cherie1
Cherie1

Thanks everyone!

I completely agree with you mick, on all points. And I never sent the birth certificate either. It\'s just a way of getting another passport. He called last night and asked (through my son) if I had sent the birth certificate yet. I said \'yes\' and he wanted to know if it was fedexed or snail mail. I just said I didn\'t want to talk about it. It is here of course, and I won\'t be sending it. If he presses things with me I plan to say \'how does it feel to not know whether someone is lying to you or not\'!

Love and thanks to all of you!
Cherie