Not Compromising Who We Are...

...to be with another.  As soon as one person compromises to "fit" into a relationship with another, the person who compromises feels boxed in, doomed, and ultimately blows up and has to be themselves again, the other person be damned. 
While I have many moods, I think, on the whole, I'm a big, silly, boistrous goofball.  It'll take a rare woman indeed to understand and love that.  But, if I LOVE her, and welcome her into me, we might work out swimmingly.  Trouble is, the women who have been attracted TO ME tend to try to "tone me down", control me, subjugate me somehow.  No good (for me).  The woman that I'm with has to be certifiably whacky in her own right, so we're constantly one-upping each other's craziness.  That's the kind of relationship I enjoyed with my brother, and I expect no less in my relationship with a woman, with the added dimension of sexual closeness.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

my beloved mom always said that when you loved someone, you should never try to \"fix\" them ..just love them.. I know that your woman is there and she is on her way to you my friend
johnnycake
johnnycake

it depends a lot on what has to be compromised, and remember that a compromise means that everyone is equally unhappy, which is a lot different than a kowtow. You are right though ... too often a woman will want you to stop whatever it is you are doing, now and forever. That\'s when I say sayonara.
koolman
koolman

Thanks, lady and gent. Interesting, johnny...\"a compromise means that everyone is equally unhappy\". One\'s mood affects the other\'s. Therefore, we always have to be ourselves...and HOPE we \"fit\" with each other...right?
deleted_user
deleted_user

Being as authentic as possible in the beginning gives us the chance of a better and more natural fit later..........the problems come when one partner is or has been trying to be something they are not (to hook or impress the other). If they are attracted to you why would they want to try and chance you.........that doesn\'t seem right........do you act less silly or crazy in the beginning and they can\'t handle it after? Just a thought. Shouldn\'t you be going for the ladies you are attracted to and not the other way round........then you might get more of what you want? just another thought