I do the opposite by telling myself sometimes that mine doesn\'t love me :( Deep down I know he does, just those darn insecurities :( It\'s a tough thing to have to deal with and it\'s only been 3 weeks for you. It\'s been 3 months for me thus far and I have a long road ahead of me until we build our lives together. You can see him face to face and hug him, (if he\'s in that type of facility) and talk to him through letters/phone calls. Enjoy that :) Why are you doubting your feelings? Do you feel like he\'s never coming back? When you love someone on the inside you\'re going to go through a ball of emotions, just stay communicating. Hang in there xx
Keep talking to us we do get it you go through every imaged emotions when they are in there its one hell of a roller-coaster ride.
Keep talking to him and us this isn\'t a sprint but a marathon there will be poo days ok day gggggrrrrr days and you might just might even get a laugh in there somewhere. Hang in there
I don\'t think you are really doubting your feelings about him. You know what they are. It\'s just that right now EVERYTHING you knew as normal in your life with him is \" gone\". This is an emotional roller coaster. Everything that is happening from him just being gone, the financial loss, the snuggling at night loss, the taking the gargage out, or going shopping with you or for you, it\'s all a big, big change. It is scary, it is sad, it is lonely. And then there is the Why the hell did this happen phase. Why did you do this? If they actually messed up to be arrested. Of course it\'s ok to be mad at them for being a fool and doing something illegal if that\'s what happened. That emotion makes us wonder why they put us and our lives on the back burner of their mind to do what they did to go away.
The emotions are endless, especially at first. You have no clue at first what the outcome of court will be. How long they will be gone, how you will survive emotionally, mentally and financially.
I get mad at mine for getting in trouble over and over and over again. DUI\'s and probation violations. He almost is done with probation and he messes up again. So yea, I sit and doubt why I have stayed with him, wondering what my life could be like if I had left him years ago. But then I get all mushy, lovey feelings again about him. And know I couldn\'t leave him.
Every thing you do that used to be part of both of your lives is going to make you sad for awhile. OR mad. I used to cry driving down roads we used to go on together. But then I realized, these are the only roads I can get anywhere on, so can\'t go on a different one. I live out in the country.
I used to cry at the home improvement store that we went to. I hated going there when he was home. He took forever looking at boring things.
You will ease off on the sadness in awhile. After you have all the answers of his fate. Being he has only been gone 3 weeks, I doubt he has had the final court dates yet.
It is hard at first to go on with our business and live life without them. But it isn\'t forever, and somehow we get through it. I know. Mine has been IN 4 times since we met.
Thanks ladies! I don\'t doubt my feelings for him. Our love is very strong, however, it\'s the not knowing that is killing me. I live in a different county then where he is incarcerated, so it\'s been a very difficult two weeks. I have began to isolate myself from family and friends and that is not good, so i contacted many old friends and they are keeping me busy! I feel so guilt enjoying life without him, but i have to live my life for him as well. So i am trying and i really appreciate all of your responses so far!
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I do the opposite by telling myself sometimes that mine doesn\'t love me :( Deep down I know he does, just those darn insecurities :( It\'s a tough thing to have to deal with and it\'s only been 3 weeks for you. It\'s been 3 months for me thus far and I have a long road ahead of me until we build our lives together. You can see him face to face and hug him, (if he\'s in that type of facility) and talk to him through letters/phone calls. Enjoy that :) Why are you doubting your feelings? Do you feel like he\'s never coming back? When you love someone on the inside you\'re going to go through a ball of emotions, just stay communicating. Hang in there xx
Keep talking to us we do get it you go through every imaged emotions when they are in there its one hell of a roller-coaster ride.
Keep talking to him and us this isn\'t a sprint but a marathon there will be poo days ok day gggggrrrrr days and you might just might even get a laugh in there somewhere. Hang in there
I don\'t think you are really doubting your feelings about him. You know what they are. It\'s just that right now EVERYTHING you knew as normal in your life with him is \" gone\". This is an emotional roller coaster. Everything that is happening from him just being gone, the financial loss, the snuggling at night loss, the taking the gargage out, or going shopping with you or for you, it\'s all a big, big change. It is scary, it is sad, it is lonely. And then there is the Why the hell did this happen phase. Why did you do this? If they actually messed up to be arrested. Of course it\'s ok to be mad at them for being a fool and doing something illegal if that\'s what happened. That emotion makes us wonder why they put us and our lives on the back burner of their mind to do what they did to go away.
The emotions are endless, especially at first. You have no clue at first what the outcome of court will be. How long they will be gone, how you will survive emotionally, mentally and financially.
I get mad at mine for getting in trouble over and over and over again. DUI\'s and probation violations. He almost is done with probation and he messes up again. So yea, I sit and doubt why I have stayed with him, wondering what my life could be like if I had left him years ago. But then I get all mushy, lovey feelings again about him. And know I couldn\'t leave him.
Every thing you do that used to be part of both of your lives is going to make you sad for awhile. OR mad. I used to cry driving down roads we used to go on together. But then I realized, these are the only roads I can get anywhere on, so can\'t go on a different one. I live out in the country.
I used to cry at the home improvement store that we went to. I hated going there when he was home. He took forever looking at boring things.
You will ease off on the sadness in awhile. After you have all the answers of his fate. Being he has only been gone 3 weeks, I doubt he has had the final court dates yet.
It is hard at first to go on with our business and live life without them. But it isn\'t forever, and somehow we get through it. I know. Mine has been IN 4 times since we met.
Thanks ladies! I don\'t doubt my feelings for him. Our love is very strong, however, it\'s the not knowing that is killing me. I live in a different county then where he is incarcerated, so it\'s been a very difficult two weeks. I have began to isolate myself from family and friends and that is not good, so i contacted many old friends and they are keeping me busy! I feel so guilt enjoying life without him, but i have to live my life for him as well. So i am trying and i really appreciate all of your responses so far!