No matter how bleak
No matter how bleak life becomes due to the loss of loved ones we have to move on. On this journey of life we experience I found that there are two ways to deal with the loss from a widow/widower viewpoint - to wait to die and join our loved ones or to move on with our lives. We are here for a reason that which is unknown to us. When our time comes the reason for our loss will not be important. What will be important is what did we do with our life. The people we touched, the deeds we did, the smiles we gave to one another. Live the good life. Be rich in the things money can't buy. Gives thanks for all that you receive.
Today would've been my wife's 56th birthday and our 36th anniversary. I thought Mother's Day was bad being the first without her or my mom, but so far so early this morning I have already cried so much I have a headache. Pain and sorrow. Keep moving forward. Fond memories. Two daughters and five grandchildren. Spend the day with my employees and take them out for lunch. Our loved ones look to us to set the example, don't let them down. Make your spouse proud as they look down from heaven. I know she is with us.
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You said it so well - we wait to die or we move on with our lives. Although I would like to turn back the clock (which reminds me that I haven't done that yet with the time change), I know I can't. And he probably wouldn't want to come back down here anyway. I don't know the reason why he's gone after less than 6 years of marriage, but it's very important for me to move forward, whatever that entails. It has been almost a year now (Dec. 13), but I still feel dysfunctional. And so much yet to do...