No contact rule
Woke up this morning with a burning desire to call him and give him a peace of my mind. UUUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHH!
Have not done so. Last time I spoke with him in the phone I realize I can't do it. I am not ready yet.
Been working really hard at my job, getting as many hours as possible to get some much needed cash for the move. I am supposed to move by end of this month, a couple offer me a basament for $350 a month and I need to check it out. It sounds big enough for both of us, and the price is beyond reasonable, so am praying tomorrow everything goes well.
Walk in the park this morning, is not as hot as other days and the breeze helps calm down my anxiety and ease my mind. There was a group of older folks practicing taichi I like seen their fluid movements. It is as the are ageless, their moves syncronized nicely. The leader of the group invite me to join them next time. I might. I would look clumsy, but I am willing to try it!
Going to work now, it going to be a long night, my company is expanding my department and for the next couple of months we are going to have a lot of work in our hands.
Have not done so. Last time I spoke with him in the phone I realize I can't do it. I am not ready yet.
Been working really hard at my job, getting as many hours as possible to get some much needed cash for the move. I am supposed to move by end of this month, a couple offer me a basament for $350 a month and I need to check it out. It sounds big enough for both of us, and the price is beyond reasonable, so am praying tomorrow everything goes well.
Walk in the park this morning, is not as hot as other days and the breeze helps calm down my anxiety and ease my mind. There was a group of older folks practicing taichi I like seen their fluid movements. It is as the are ageless, their moves syncronized nicely. The leader of the group invite me to join them next time. I might. I would look clumsy, but I am willing to try it!
Going to work now, it going to be a long night, my company is expanding my department and for the next couple of months we are going to have a lot of work in our hands.
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I am so glad that you realize continuing NO CONTACT is the way to go. It\'s been 5 years since Devastation Day for me and more than 3 years since the divorce was final. Yet, somehow, I can\'t visualize a conversation with the X without me getting in some remark about what an a** he was and still is. Guess I need to stay N/C too, huh?
The ex wanted to be friends \"at least until the divorce was over\". He always tells on himself. So I knew to be watchful about anything he said.
I am now in full no contact with him and our daughter. and my life is much quieter. Yes, even with the work load I have my life is much easier.
I have no contact with my ex as well, and ignore any emails or phone calls from his skank ho/now wife. I\'m with Cowgirl, I don\'t think I could say anything civil, so why bother? I don\'t want to hear from him again.
Keep up the NC--it really does help.
I would say the anger is a good sign that you are starting to move on. Last I read from you you were kind of holding out hope.
Good luck with the move. The price does sound great. I would of liked to find a less expensive place so I could do fun stuff with the kids but I couldn\'t find anything safe or inside the same school district, my D is a junior in high school and I didn\'t have the heart to move her out.
I stopped contact with my ex. They WANT us to call them....no matter what the reason, so I decided not to even give him that. You should see him when there\'s a family affair. He acts as though we\'re great buddies. I\'m cordial as his side of family and the kid\'s other side are there...birthday parties for the babies, graduation from college, babies births, etc. When I entered the room at the hospital when my daughter was in labor, he started explaining what all they were doing with her. I was nice, but I feel indifferent where he\'s concerned. It was such a long time ago that the only time I really get angry is when I see what it\'s done to our children and my relationship with THEM. It\'s not about him. It hasn\'t been about him since my now 24 year old son was a baby. I\'ve been over that jerk for years. Glad you didn\'t call him. He\'d love that. Dont\' let him win. He\'s not worth it. I lived in someone\'s basement while out in the mid-west. I slept on the sofa. I\'m sleeping on the sofa at my roommate\'s here also. Hey, it works! I feel safe here. I\'m treated well here. There\'s no pressure. They love me and I love them. Neither of us cook much, so we\'re not in each other\'s way. We\'re both eating fresh fruits and veggies, so it\'s not like two women in a same kitchen anymore. When I\'m not here, I\'m at my son\'s so I can be with my granddaughte rwhen he has her. My daughter still hasn\'t called and I\"m not calling her either.
Keep up the great work. Oh, and glad you\'re working on your book again. I\'m reading yours too!