no contact
I know that this was unusual but I did not have to text or phone my stbx in the last 24 hours and I was much calmer because of it. The down side is that I still do not have some vital info I need from him and I have no idea if he is seeing the children tomorrow or if so- at what time,etc. I do not want my children to rush into adulthood but I sure am looking forward to them handling their time with him THEMSELVES. I do NOT like to have to be in contact with him.
I actually was able to go through some old photos today w/o tears. I sorted a small box into his, mine and the daughters. I got rid of photos that were lousy, but I was able to look at photos of the children as babies- with both of us- and realize that the girls will want these. I plan to give them each photo boxes. I will even put some of the very best ones into my safety deposit box. He can do what he wants with the rest when I have finished. I see no reason to keep thousands of pics of the 2 of us. What is the point? I will give the girls some. He can have the rest to keep for them if he wishes. I do not want to be reminded of how he used to feel about me. I found more old papers of his and it felt good to be clearing out more of his mess. The garage is filling up. It will be good when he finally takes the stuff- but he won't do it until his name is off of the mortgage. Procrastinator as always...
I actually was able to go through some old photos today w/o tears. I sorted a small box into his, mine and the daughters. I got rid of photos that were lousy, but I was able to look at photos of the children as babies- with both of us- and realize that the girls will want these. I plan to give them each photo boxes. I will even put some of the very best ones into my safety deposit box. He can do what he wants with the rest when I have finished. I see no reason to keep thousands of pics of the 2 of us. What is the point? I will give the girls some. He can have the rest to keep for them if he wishes. I do not want to be reminded of how he used to feel about me. I found more old papers of his and it felt good to be clearing out more of his mess. The garage is filling up. It will be good when he finally takes the stuff- but he won't do it until his name is off of the mortgage. Procrastinator as always...
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