New to Aspergers ...

This past week I was diagnosed with Asperger's, but apparently... (and I didnt know this) people at work have been telling me I've been rude. I don't mean to be, I'm trying to joke with people! I'm trying to make the best of it.... even though, recently... they moved my favorite management person to a whole different shift... plus other HUGE changes.... all at once. My brain has felt like 100,000 needles are constantly stabbing my brain with all the changes... my anxiety is through space because of it, and the needles won't stop. Are all of these things common? Am i normal in any realm? Should i tell my bosses I have Asperger's and risk being treated differently? Why do I constantly have to feel depressed, that I'll never be ":right" or ":normal" or okay...?