New Rules
His rules: He does not give a shit.
I shut the fuck up.
well then. Then he wants sex with his erectile dysfunction ... boy is that fun. ( btw he does not come to bed at night because as soon as I go upstairs he goes straight to his porn. ) his sexual preferences I have discovered are quite degrading and disrespectful to most any woman. This knowledge makes me very happy he cannot get an eraction. This is a physical problem based on years of drinking drug abuse and noncompliance with his health issues.
I feel pretty sad, not about the loss of sexual partner, and not even about the ongoing drinking/ drug use. I am just so disappointed at the man he has chosen to become. End of story.
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My alcoholic husband has the same issue. We literally have not had actual sex in over a year. Anytime we tried he had that that same issue. Then he would get upset because I wouldn't get him off via oral sex or just jacking him off. I couldn't care less if we ever had sex. He has had issues with porn as well. I don't know if he watches now and I don't ask. We do not share the same bed, mostly because he snores horrible. Our 3 year old sleeps with me and he actually sleeps in the room we have set up for her. I know one day I will have to move her to her own room, and to be honest, I will probably just continue sleeping with her until she doesn't want me to. My older kids share a room next to her room, and the rooms do not have a door that separates them, just the stairway and a short wall. So I know my husband doesn't watch anything after going to bed unless he comes downstairs after they are asleep. It used to upset me that he would watch that trash, but since he blames me for his drinking (because I don't ever have sex with him, although he can't keep it up) I just don't really care anymore. Part of me wishes that we could at least get back to some sort of sexual relationship as I know it is not healthy for a couple to never have sex, but unless he quits drinking, I just don't know.