new plan

Every other night T has been walking in the before 1.  Although I had it in writing and talked to him - I'm not sure if it's purposeful selective hearing or I wasn't clear enough. He says he heard that if he's not home by 1AM on any given night - then he's not allowed home on that night.  I told him no - once he's out past 1 - he's done - can't come back AT ALL until he decides to follow ALL of our simple rules and one being - home at 1 EVERY NIGHT.  And, of course, it isn't just about that.  It's about the drugs.  Ideally, I would prefer that my husband insist that drug testing be included in it (I've mentioned drug testing to T) but I honestly cannot see him doing that.  
We need a new counselor.  This guy isn't what I thought he would be.  He seemed great during our first round of crisis but now -- he looks at me like I should know how to handle this.  In my head - I do - but my heart - it needs a little prodding.  From what I'm told from other experts - we should be seeing this guy every week. When I suggested it both he and my husband looked at me weird.  The counselor said "Why?  For emotional support?"  Well - yes and some direction....... hello?