NEW GROUP... Sex On The Brain
I am extending an open invitation to any who are struggling currently with Sex On The Brain. This is for those of us who have a virtually non existent ( or severly lacking) sex life. For those times when just us and our toys are simply not enough. There have been times when the preoccupation strikes but the mood does not disappear. I realize with the gorgeous weather, it is like a morgue around here, but on the off chance that just maybe there may be a couple of us horntoads who just wanna chat and get passed this, I thought this may be a good way to cope.
Any (over 18) are welcome and there is literally NO TMI. You are welcome to join us.
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hugs my friend. Good for you to go and get what you want. Gee, we, women were taught that we did not have the drive of men.
I still struggle with this. I think because I got such a late start and had very limited experience, is why I am preoccupied.
A study did say if you are in an unhealthy relationship, you may think about sex 85% of the time. Often feels true to me.
Imagining, investigating and acquiring toys is one thing, I look forward to the day I may find a live willing worthy participant. (I just pray my clock is not ticked out and it is too late.) Then maybe it will not be so prominent in mind.
I totally understand what you are talking about unfortunately. I think this group is a good idea, especially started by a woman. Frustrated sexual feelings are just awful to deal with. I got a late start and also have limited experience too. I don't have a partner either and haven't for a long time. And, yea, it can get too late because your body changes after menopause quite drastically. Better to have as much fun as you can while you are young. Not saying to give up when you're older but it's not the same.
This is a good idea. Sexual frustration is huge!
you know what is weird. I have suffered from sexual frustration for a long time and when I have looked it up online to find some info on how to cope or whatever what comes up is always targeted at men!
it's as if no other women have any trouble getting laid, it's only a problem with guys! no way.
and/or women don't want sex as much as guys so even if they aren't getting any it's not a problem for them.
so yea, this is the first place I've seen online like this except maybe the sites that talk about menopause. but that's for women who have partners but their bodies aren't cooperating.
i'm a 54 year old women who hasn't had sex in years because men just aren't interested in me (even when I was young) and I have wanted it desperately but couldn't get it. never been able to talk about it before. sorry to go on so much but this has been a huge problem for me for a very long time.
also, i'm not actually that repulsive looking or anything. in fact, people have often told me that they think I am pretty or even beautiful. (well, when I was younger mostly) but anyway, I don't think I was rejected just based on my looks. i'm shy but not THAT shy. so yea, it's been very puzzling and frustrating and absolutely awful and unhealthy for me for a very very long time.
thanks for listening.
I am realizing that maybe some of it is the way we feel about ourselves. When we are self conscious, feeling like we are not good enough or doubting someone could want (or be satisfied with) us....that is not exactly attractive or a turn on.
Once we can finally be happy with who we are (with or without our hips and curves...) and KNOW that we can be and have just what we want.....that confidence and courage to speak up and say what has been on our minds, I think that in itself IS and does make us that much more attractive (in everyone's eyes)
Is this group just for women?
No it's not. It is just that we seem to be the only ones willing to speak up.
It is open for any and all of us who miss and have sex on the brain. (And Lord knows....lately especially...that is me. Lol)
I am a member of that club too, I have not been totally barren, A possible avoidant personality didn't help much either, but that did help in my choice of work, so I was a workoholic.....still am really.
See...this is not exclusive ....all are welcome. Just search and join....
Sex On The Brain...
Here is the link to her group right here:
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/sex-on-the-brain
Thanks Bob.
You seem to have identified an important unfulfilled need here. Where I live, women are allowed in the men's changing rooms at the swimming baths. They are mostly quite mature women, often in pairs. In the right circumstances, I have given them a free nude show, sometimes returned, and sometimes more .... Two of the pools hold mixed nude sauna sessions. The lady attendants seem to intervene only if called .... I think there must be many women and men looking for a little excitement which your group will help. xxx
I am wondering where you are. I never heard of mixed things for both sexes around here
Birmingham UK. I have often thought it a bit odd too. Men certainly would not be allowed in women's changing rooms. The men's changing rooms have a few private cubicles as well as an open area. Family cubicles are big enough for 2 or 3 adults to have a private wank. Women attendants sometimes walk through men's changing rooms too. All this means that women are free to look for a bit of excitement if they want to. Pools can be hired outside normal opening times for private parties, often in the nude. Women are usually especially welcome.